The Spanking...Naughty or Nice?

There is a lot to be said about the variations between men and women. Most that I know of enjoy being both teased and pleased. Women live off of emotion while men instead live life based on logic. Women crave the excitement of emotions like anger, longing, lust, and happiness. Meanwhile men prefer to end arguments quickly with logic, rather then prolong it in order to feel emotionally satisfied. So, what is it exactly that women want if you can't read them or if they aren't giving off the right body language?

Let's talk about something that all women want and if they don't say it out loud, they fantasize about it...the spanking. Yup, you heard me, a spanking. In the heat of the moment when your man slaps your tush what goes through your mind?  Do you love it or hate it, or did it happen so quickly that you really have not had the time to process it thoroughly? My guess is that you loved it.

My guess is that it is something that all women want to experience but not many of you know how to just come out and tell your partner what you like...My non-professional advice? Speak up and tell him what you want, otherwise you may end up having a relationship with a some fella that has no idea what your needs are and he'll just assume that you like whatever it is that he does. As a woman, you never hold back, so why stop now? It's all in good playful fun, and it's erotic and sexy. Live your wildest dreams behind closed doors and open the possibilities of what is yet to come in your relationships with your man.

Pain is a factor, as is pleasure, but there's no one word to accurately describe the appeal of the erotic spanking. It makes us improve our attitude and our behavior. It lets us know someone is in charge. It defines boundaries of acceptable, and unacceptable, behavior. I think spanking is a gateway behavior — an icebreaker to other more adventurous things. It seems to me that spanking, or more accurately, establishing spanking as OK, during sex is one of the best ways to add other fun boundary-pushing “enhancements,”like new positions, and dirty talking. Too many women are afraid to “let go” in the bedroom. Why do men like to spank? Because women can let out a real squeal or two and that makes any man in his right mind turn into putty in your hand! Nothing turns a man on quickly than a woman with her panties pushed aside and her soft skin exposed to the naked hand.

So does it get a positive reaction? It gets a reaction all right....Why? Because most women love it. To be in an embrace with my man when he says, “I want to spank you…”. Wow!! What women wouldn't get turned on by that? The spanking itself is another turn-on. (Spanking stimulates the same nerves as sexual activity.) As they say, “A fire on my backside lights up one up front.”

Ladies, whether you are married, in a relationship, a one night stand, a sugar baby or just smoking hot in the heat of the moment in a superficial fantasy world...there is nothing wrong with wanting to be pleased and teased -and fellas, if you want to keep your lady happy.... listen to her needs. This can be a bedroom wonderland for sure! Buy your sexy lingerie and fantasy costumes for the bedroom at Simply Delicious Lingerie and watch the evening heat up quickly! www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com

www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com

About Simply Delicious Lingerie

Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we've personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, simple lingerie, plus size lingerie, affordable plus size lingerie, sexy matchign sets for hips and curves on plus size women, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing. Have a lingerie party with us and experience fun!  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit http://simplydeliciouslingerie.com/  Say YES (your everyday sexy) to Simply Delicious Lingerie! ® 

© This is a copyright of Simply Delicious Lingerie®   

Dating... Is Age Just a Number?

I’ve dated men a few years younger than me, and when I say a few I'm talking anywhere between 2 and 12 years younger, and then I have dated men much older than me, and when I say older I am talking 10-15 years older than me. Where many women tend to lie about their age, I don't. It is what it is and I'm 48. I'm happy with my looks and who I am and proud of how I look in comparison to many other woman my age that haven't aged quite so well. I found no reason to hide it from my dates or even my partners that I was older or younger than them.

 What I’ve found is that while relationships can be affected by age, they are more so sustained by maturity, similar interests, and common values, which doesn’t always require a close birth dates. Age is only just a number, but why do so many people frown upon it? Are they embarrassed by it, or shamed of what their friends and family may think? Guess what Mr or Ms Coward...you have to live for YOU. At the end of the date or a long weekend getaway when you exit the airport to head back home to your so called 'normal life' you may be walking away from the best thing that has ever happened to you all because you didn't want to tell others about the man/woman you were seeing due to age. Are you for real? If this is the case, you don't deserve this type of true happiness.

That being said, it is important for two individuals,(setting any age difference aside) to want the same thing from a relationship. Often, if there are differences, people cite it as a conflict due to age, but in all reality, really it has more to do with what stage you’re at in life, and what type of relationship you feel would be best for you right now and in the near future. My thoughts were always that chemistry although being quite important was a big key ingredient to the dating pie, but the mentality level of each individual had to connect along the lines somewhere as well. Within each culture are stereotypes associated to dating someone of significant age difference. Whether you are the younger or older one in the situation, some might thing that you will be looked upon in a certain light and judged; more so by those who are either speculative of the relationship or envious of the dynamic. I say that is all hogwash. No one seems to criticize the athletes or celebrities when they date or marry 20 years older or younger.

It has become more socially commonplace to hear people say that age is just a number; and while in theory that may hold true, are these people silently passing judgment behind closed doors and bashing the hell out of those who do it. Why? Ignorance I suppose.  At the end of the day isn't it really about how you feel for one another that really matters most?

Hey folks, newsflash; We all bring different gifts to the table. I got married and started my family in my 20′s, it was said by many family members and friends to have been a train wreck. If that is what it was I am happy to have proved them all wrong and state that my 'train wreck' lasted 15 years, and during those years we had two kids and a really good marriage for the most part. Some people said that until I’d learned some of the lessons of life I needed to get under my belt before I could be a healthy partner. (That doesn’t mean that every girl in her 20′s is a train wreck, nor does it mean that at a young age you cannot be wise enough to make the right choices.) I loathe people who talk behind your back one minute about your relationship or marriage and the next they are your best friend.

 Life is a precious gift. Mistakes are most often easy to fix. Thoughout life we grow as a person and we learn what makes each of us happy. I have friends who have been searching for that one right man forever and now they are in their late 30s and mid 40s and never have been married. I have friends who got hitched at a certain age because they were “supposed to.” I also have friends who are getting divorces from their “supposed to” spouses. I know friends who are happily married since their early 20′s and happy “never married” in their 40′s and 50′s.

You see, life is not about finding the perfect man or woman or even the perfect age in which to do the sometimes crazy things that we do. Life is there to teach us that it's OK to make mistakes and learn from them. Sure I made some mistakes in life and especially in my marriage, nonetheless, those mistakes and taking someone for granted taught me that you have to communicate more and show that person how much you care day in and day out. I'm not talking about showering them with flowers and chocolates everyday. A smile or a soft hand gently stroking your face to see you smile is a delight. To have a man look in your eyes and tell you that you are beautiful or that he wants you is not only intriguing rather extraordinary. It is the simple things that most women cherish.

When I date, I don’t target men older or younger than me. I simply enjoy people as people, and whatever age they are—they are. I’ve dated older men that act like toddlers at times. And I’ve dated younger men that, looks aside, could fool anyone into thinking they were in their 40s. There really hasn’t been a solid pattern of behavior with the older men I’ve dated or the younger ones. I will say that the ones that I’ve kept around have similar attitudes about life, vast ambitions, and powerful wisdom to share. Regardless of their ages, I actually have learned a thing or two about life from each of these people along the way that I spent time getting to know.

With all of this being said, I still have a dark cloud hanging over me and that cloud is called 'time.' It seems as if there are days, or weeks where time hangs around taunting me and teasing me and each day that slips by makes me wonder if I am to ever meet a man that I can share common ground with and be compatible with.  I stopped worrying about what others thought years ago. I intend to be happy and live for me. The hell with what other people think. If they are so concerned about you and your well being let them pay your bills and your rent. See, it's OK for friends and family to try to interfere when you do something like date a much younger or older guy, but where the hell are they when you really need them? Point made and might I make a suggestion to those who do this; keep your mouth shut and your not needed opinions to yourself.

Here is what I have learned;
Listen to your mind but follow your heart.You can't discount your feelings, even if it is separated by an age barrier. If you two share a mutual admiration for one another, then I suggest to act on it. Try to move past the whispers all around, it’s just static and a bunch of hypocrites that have nothing better to do with their lives but talk about your. As long as you and your partner are in a healthy and happy relationship, and are on the same page, that should be all that matters. End of story.

Independent Relationships...Do They Work?

Living in a close relationship with your special someone is invigorating, exciting and can be oh so fun! Maybe you've heard this described as when the Spice Girls sang "when two become one." OK, perhaps that was a tad bit cheesy...But this isn't the whole picture, so let's look at that now, shall we? In reality, a healthy relationship is made up of two mentally strong people. They each lead independent lives and have the desire and ability share their lives as well. I think that this is quite common these days to remain somewhat independent don't you? Don't you think that it makes it stronger perhaps? Even if you don't see eye to eye, you can have a wonderful caring relationship!

These are a few of the reasons why this balance of separateness and togetherness is important:

1. Independence makes the relationship more intellectually stimulating. If each party brings his or her individual interests to the table, they'll have some fascinating and different subjects to talk about with one another.

• Perhaps he's interested in kayaking and she's intrigued with studying history. They can each engage their own pursuits fully, but also enjoy the other person's passion.

2. You can depend on your partner for support when you need it. If each partner is independent, each one is comfortable depending on the other when the going gets tough or when life gets hectic. A relationship is, in essence, a partnership. Knowing you can count on the other person is wonderfully supportive.

• Having confidence that your partner can "be okay" without you while you're at work or otherwise engaged relieves you of having to worry about how your partner will manage in challenging situations.
• Relationships do have an ebb and flow that requires that one partner lean on the other occasionally, and this is OK, I say Lean!!!!

3. Two independent people in a relationship can mean a more balanced relationship. When you're both independent, the relationship is healthier. Nobody is exclusively relegated to a specific role.

• When balance isn't present, one partner might take the role of "the strong one" in the relationship while the other partner is consequently "the weak one." Equilibrium in the relationship means no one partner is more or less powerful than the other.

4. Your relationship becomes stronger. When two independent people make a decision to have a relationship, their time with each other is more special and sacred. Even though a sense of independence is important for each partner, being willing to share with the other what you love to do is a great way to spend quality time together.

• Bringing independence to your relationship promises a deeper, more lasting partnership, since it's built on acceptance of each other as a whole human being.

5. A sense of independence makes you more emotionally secure. This works for and benefits both partners.

• If a partner is emotionally secure, they're not afraid to show their strength and their softer side at the same time. Showing your soft side is a good thing, so damn it, let that guard down will ya?
• Each person's sense of independence can help facilitate more openness and honesty in the partnership. No matter what you say or do, you know that your mate will ultimately be okay, since their independence already shows that they're able to take care of themselves.
• When you come together at the end of the day, maybe one is tired or bored. The other can step in and revive the other or bring some ideas to the table.
• Neither partner will feel threatened by their mate's autonomy and sense of personal strength and emotional security.

Partners in a relationship will enjoy a much deeper, longer lasting connection when they each have a sense of independence. Bringing up different interests for discussion, feeling like you can depend on the other and having a balanced relationship all stem from both parties having their own sense of autonomy.

For these reasons and more, independence is integral to healthy relationships. Enjoy your partner, and share your thoughts and feelings. This brings a sense of balance to your relation, so build on that...and you will accomplish what many others have not, and cannot. Trust me, when you do the sky is the limit and there may even  be a little wedding bliss in your future!

www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com

Is Sex Ok During Pregnancy?

Often women ask, "Can I have sex during pregnancy?" Unless you have been given strict orders to not have sex during pregnancy, there is no reason physically why you can’t. Although, many women will bend the truth a little so that they don't have to have sex during their pregnancy. What you all need to know is that sex during pregnancy does not harm the baby in any way. Your baby is safely tucked away in the womb, surrounded by a cushion of water. In fact the further along you get, sex will actually rock the baby asleep. That can very beneficial to a mom who wants to have some good love and then good night’s sleep. Be sure to talk to your partner about how you feel and listen to his needs as well. Intimacy is important and talking about what is going on, helps couples remain close and in understanding of each other.

Many people think you can cause a miscarriage from having sex and this is not true. If you are having a normal pregnancy and have not been put on any restrictions, sex will not cause a miscarriage. Unfortunately, if a woman is going to miscarry, she is going to no matter whether or not she refrains from sex. In a normal pregnancy sex is a good thing. It exercises the uterus and keeps the intimacy between partners alive.

The Changes of Pregnancy

Whether or not you are interested in sex while pregnant depends on you and your pregnancy. There are many women who with all the hormones and their side effects just can’t muster enough energy to want sex. Others find that their sexual drive is in high gear and just can’t get enough. It is normal to be in either of those two places or somewhere in between. Many women find that they have different drives with each pregnancy, so if you aren’t in the mood this time don’t be bummed out, it could be different next time. It is better not worry about whether your sex life has gone down or up and just focus on intimacy. It is different for all women. Some feel renewed with their new bodies and no birth control, while others just feel awful.

As the 3rd trimester waddles on, you might feel too big, or can’t be comfortable to have sex, I certainly did. Sex can be the last thing on your mind at this stage of the game. Other women find it a great opportunity to try new things and experiment with new positions. Don’t forget about the men in your life. Many men have no problem with having sex while you are pregnant. For many men, the fact that their wife is carrying their child is the most spectacular thing in the world and they can’t be close enough to them. They want the intimacy and crave to be sexually close to their wives. On the other hand there are men who get a bit freaked out. He might be afraid of hurting his wife with sex or can’t imagine “desecrating” a pregnant woman. Some men find the ever-changing pregnant body not as appealing, like it serves a different function now. Open communication and listening to each other is very important during this time.

Many of the old faithful ways of having sex won’t be working as well and even dangerous as pregnancy progresses. Once you hit the four-month mark, no being on your back, ladies. The expanding uterus can cut off major blood vessels when lying on your back. Now it is time for some new sex positions. Get fun and creative. Remember you have all this extra blood flow and lubrication there right now, use it. This is a great time to experience an orgasm if you have never had one before, or have even better ones. Spooning is a great position and it allows you to lie on your left side, which is the best position for a pregnant lady. Pillows can be used to support a belly and legs.

Listen gals, you need to remember to keep a sense of humor, if things don’t work the first time try new stuff and try again. There is a good chance that you will find sex even better than ever and even experience multiple orgasms. Your breasts might be very sensitive right now, so be sure to tell your partner what feels good and what is too much. Most men would rather know what makes you feel good than anything else, and they're there to work with you to make it comfortable for the both of you.

So, what then you wonder are the rules to follow if you choose not to have sex while pregnant? For those ladies who either can’t or just have no desire for sex, there are many other ways to be intimate and stay close to your partner. Cuddling, kissing, massage, caressing each other, or what ever else you like can be just as good. No matter what happens to your sex life during pregnancy, it’s important to keep the lines of communication open. Tell your spouse/partner how you feel and why? Talk and listen to each other and communicate what you want and need, and be respectful and receptive to your partners needs too. There are other ways to create intimacy during pregnancy...my advice would be get experimental and find something that make you both happy. This is a wonderful time of your life and you are soaking up a brand new kind of beauty. At Simply Delicious Lingerie, we want you to feel pretty and sexy when you are pregnant before, during, and after the pregnancy! Stop by our online store and browse our beautiful line of womens intimate apparel. www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com 

www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com

Tantalize him with "Table Talk!"

body language

Definition

Silent (non-verbal) messages communicated through the sender's body movements, facial expressions, voice tone and loudness, etc. In social psychology, all behavior in presence of another person is considered communication. Also called kinesic communications. See also non verbal communication.

Nonverbal communication is a rapidly flowing back-and-forth process. You send one another signals with gestures, sighs, or eye contact. Successful nonverbal communication depends on emotional self-awareness and an understanding of the cues you’re sending, along with the ability to accurately pick up on the cues others are sending you. Ladies, in short, this means "don't hold back." This requires your full concentration and attention. If you're planning what you’re going to say next, daydreaming, or thinking about something else, you are almost certain to miss nonverbal cues and other subtleties in the conversation, and you'll probably blow the opportunity. Relax and go with the flow.....My advice, shoot from the hip. More often than not, the best romantic displays of affection come from moments where we lose our heads and throw the rules right up into the air. I'm all about taking risks. Life is far to short to wonder, "what if?" When you are with someone and you are both feeling a bit romantic, show him/her. Don't wait, there's no time like the present!

 Body language is effective! Not only does it show you have a sense of adventure, it also shows that you can use your imagination. My grandmother used to say that if you could master the art of body language, you could have an entire conversation with someone without having ever had to open your mouth. The eyes have a way of often telling it all. Can you speak with your eyes?  The body has a way of saying "I want you now!" It doesn't matter where you are, if the mood strikes and you want to show them how you feel.....send them a signal. It's contagious, fun, exhilarating, erotic, spontaneous and something he'll be thinking about long afterwards. Why be ordinary when you can be extraordinary?

Doesn't this just give "table talk" a whole new meaning?