Nothing gets under my skin more than when someone take me for granted, shows lack of appreciation for the little things I do, and most especially, when someone takes me for a complete fool whether it be in my personal life or business/professional field. I believe that a person can only be 'so good' at so many things. I would be the first person to tell you that I am not an expert at many things, BUT I am a smart cookie and where I may not be the expert with automobiles or computers, etc., I would consider myself to be a pro at being a mother and possibly even a small business owner. It takes a lot of time and patience to achieve goals. It takes loyalty and integrity to want to be a better you. In times of need when someone falls out of line, steps out of line, and opens their mouth with nothing to say but negative things, do not handle them with kids gloves. My advice is to take that bull by the horns and show them that you are in all fairness favorable to come out of this the more mature individual.
What do you do about those that make you poorly at times? Well, you've got a few choices; you can cry, or you can learn how to stand up to them...Oh yes my friends, you most certainly do have a choice. Most often you can brush off the rude/sly remarks and comments. People sometimes say silly things at times that can be mistaken for other meanings (I know I sure do) and taking everything personally is going to turn you into an anxious, paranoid train wreck...which btw no one ever wants to be.
So while the thought suggests that you should just brush off the comment and carry on regardless, there’s another school of thought that says you shouldn’t tolerate someone who puts you down and walks all over you as if you were a doormat. What gives someone the right to be a bully emotionally to you?
To be brutally frank with you, I think that too many people take too many things personally when they’re not meant to be, but both choices have their place and I’m not going to say that one way is better than the other. What I will say is that if you’re told enough times that you’re not good enough it’s entirely possible that you’ll start to believe it, especially if the someone who’s telling you you’re not good enough is someone you care about or love. In cases like this, where your self-esteem is on the line, leaving things alone and carrying on is definitely the wrong call. It's time to step up to the plate and demand some respect from family, friends or peers. It’s easy to feel powerless in this situation, but you have to recognize that you’re in a position to make a choice. You can choose to be a victim and to take what’s said as the truth, or you can choose to remember who you are and to stand tall and decide not to take crap from anyone that makes you feel as such.
There are so so many reasons that someone decides to put you down. They might be taking anger or bitterness from one part of their life and venting it onto you, but frequently, and most commonly, it’s about making themselves right. By putting you down they’re able to reinforce their own position; by lessening and damaging your position they’re able to achieve personal validation. I know I’ve certainly experienced put downs from people at various times throughout my life.It is a form of mental abuse. I’m not sure it’s possible to go through life not meeting one of these people somewhere along the way so the best strategy seems to be to learn how to deal with them prior to interacting with them.
Remember, with this type of individual, they are not your friend. This is not your burden and it is not your issues to deal with. This – is about them, not you. Most often their life is quite misreable so they want to make yours the same. Do not let them crush you or crush your goals or dreams. Do not let them make you feel like less of a person, and DO NOT let them feel superior over you.What they say in most cases isn’t truth and their method for achieving validation is just plain wrong. How people can act as such is far beyond me, nonetheless, people do it to me and therefore I can say to you it is so wrong on so many levels.
So why on earth do people act in such a poor manner? Sometimes it takes as an individual making a very difficult choice/decision. You can’t reach into their head and change their behavior or thinking process/pattern, and it’s certainly not at all your job to tolerate unacceptable behavior. People either get how things work or they don’t, and there’s no way you should suffer at the hands of someone who just doesn’t get it. More often than not, they are not half the person that you are or they wouldn't do such things. So how does one deal with this type of manipulation in a person that you thought was a friend or coworker, or worse, a family member? If, at the end, you’ve done what you can and they’re still putting you down, you owe it to yourself to get out and get something better. WAlk AWAy!
The first thing that I have learned about these types of people is to know is that a happy, self confident, person does not and or will not put others down. They might provide constructive criticism but they won’t put others down. This tells you a lot about the person who criticizes you. Some people are very negative about others because they need to make themselves feel like they're in control or more powerful or to cover up their own insecurities, or because they’ve experienced a trauma of their own in the past and they don’t know how to deal with the pain so they'll hurt others as a defense mechanism. People’s tirades against you will generally reveal to you just how unhappy and disillusioned and frustrated that person is with life, and that's their problem, not yours. Knowing this can go a long way to being able to detach from the comments.These people are self destructive bullies, and one day, it will all come back upon them full circle. Karma my friends certainly IS a bitch.
So what have I learned from this type of person? Put downs are never pleasant to deal with but if you can use them to your advantage, then that’s the best solution of all. I've learned to be the better person. I've learned to continue to be 'me' and to be happy with who I am and not worry about what someone else things of me. You must remember that this is about YOU, not THEM. I've learned how to be the bigger person. Why? Because I am kind hearted, compassionate and so many things that this person(s) will never be. One must first have a high level of respect for them self and if you do, try to understand that the person (s) treating you as such wouldn't know respect if it jumped up and bit them. Stay focused, stay positive, and be YoU!
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What do you do about those that make you poorly at times? Well, you've got a few choices; you can cry, or you can learn how to stand up to them...Oh yes my friends, you most certainly do have a choice. Most often you can brush off the rude/sly remarks and comments. People sometimes say silly things at times that can be mistaken for other meanings (I know I sure do) and taking everything personally is going to turn you into an anxious, paranoid train wreck...which btw no one ever wants to be.
So while the thought suggests that you should just brush off the comment and carry on regardless, there’s another school of thought that says you shouldn’t tolerate someone who puts you down and walks all over you as if you were a doormat. What gives someone the right to be a bully emotionally to you?
To be brutally frank with you, I think that too many people take too many things personally when they’re not meant to be, but both choices have their place and I’m not going to say that one way is better than the other. What I will say is that if you’re told enough times that you’re not good enough it’s entirely possible that you’ll start to believe it, especially if the someone who’s telling you you’re not good enough is someone you care about or love. In cases like this, where your self-esteem is on the line, leaving things alone and carrying on is definitely the wrong call. It's time to step up to the plate and demand some respect from family, friends or peers. It’s easy to feel powerless in this situation, but you have to recognize that you’re in a position to make a choice. You can choose to be a victim and to take what’s said as the truth, or you can choose to remember who you are and to stand tall and decide not to take crap from anyone that makes you feel as such.
There are so so many reasons that someone decides to put you down. They might be taking anger or bitterness from one part of their life and venting it onto you, but frequently, and most commonly, it’s about making themselves right. By putting you down they’re able to reinforce their own position; by lessening and damaging your position they’re able to achieve personal validation. I know I’ve certainly experienced put downs from people at various times throughout my life.It is a form of mental abuse. I’m not sure it’s possible to go through life not meeting one of these people somewhere along the way so the best strategy seems to be to learn how to deal with them prior to interacting with them.
Remember, with this type of individual, they are not your friend. This is not your burden and it is not your issues to deal with. This – is about them, not you. Most often their life is quite misreable so they want to make yours the same. Do not let them crush you or crush your goals or dreams. Do not let them make you feel like less of a person, and DO NOT let them feel superior over you.What they say in most cases isn’t truth and their method for achieving validation is just plain wrong. How people can act as such is far beyond me, nonetheless, people do it to me and therefore I can say to you it is so wrong on so many levels.
So why on earth do people act in such a poor manner? Sometimes it takes as an individual making a very difficult choice/decision. You can’t reach into their head and change their behavior or thinking process/pattern, and it’s certainly not at all your job to tolerate unacceptable behavior. People either get how things work or they don’t, and there’s no way you should suffer at the hands of someone who just doesn’t get it. More often than not, they are not half the person that you are or they wouldn't do such things. So how does one deal with this type of manipulation in a person that you thought was a friend or coworker, or worse, a family member? If, at the end, you’ve done what you can and they’re still putting you down, you owe it to yourself to get out and get something better. WAlk AWAy!
The first thing that I have learned about these types of people is to know is that a happy, self confident, person does not and or will not put others down. They might provide constructive criticism but they won’t put others down. This tells you a lot about the person who criticizes you. Some people are very negative about others because they need to make themselves feel like they're in control or more powerful or to cover up their own insecurities, or because they’ve experienced a trauma of their own in the past and they don’t know how to deal with the pain so they'll hurt others as a defense mechanism. People’s tirades against you will generally reveal to you just how unhappy and disillusioned and frustrated that person is with life, and that's their problem, not yours. Knowing this can go a long way to being able to detach from the comments.These people are self destructive bullies, and one day, it will all come back upon them full circle. Karma my friends certainly IS a bitch.
So what have I learned from this type of person? Put downs are never pleasant to deal with but if you can use them to your advantage, then that’s the best solution of all. I've learned to be the better person. I've learned to continue to be 'me' and to be happy with who I am and not worry about what someone else things of me. You must remember that this is about YOU, not THEM. I've learned how to be the bigger person. Why? Because I am kind hearted, compassionate and so many things that this person(s) will never be. One must first have a high level of respect for them self and if you do, try to understand that the person (s) treating you as such wouldn't know respect if it jumped up and bit them. Stay focused, stay positive, and be YoU!
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