Online Lingerie Shopping...Yea or Nay?

Shopping for lingerie online...'yea or nay?' Truth be told, in tody’s era, buying lingerie online has become more and more popular for not only women, nonetheless relatively for men as well. Women do it most often because they know their own body and what they like such as size, style, color, pattern, fabric. Men on the other hand shop online because it is easy for them and no one will see them out and about in a mall or a shopping plaza. Most men do not worry if they are seen, nonetheless, there is the man who has a mistress, lover, sugar baby, or multiple girlfriends who seeks privacy and wants the transaction, what ever it may be to be quite discreet. At Simply Delicious Lingerie and Simply Luscious Lingerie you get all of this and then some. We offer you the best of both worlds, and who doesn't appreciate that? What makes us so different? We make it all about YOU, not us.

We offer you hundreds of choices of women’s intimate apparel, and we have lingerie for men. We take pride in our adult novelty selection as the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing is the most popular choice of many couples that shop with us. We give our guests the best prices we can. It’s never been about how much as a company we make in whole, oh no…it’s always been about putting our customers needs first and foremost and delivering the lingerie, shoes or accessories at the best price to save them money so that they’ll come back later, and tell their friends and family! Confidence is essential with women and you can’t very well learn and explore your inner most beauties if the sexy lingerie that you desire is so over-priced that you’ll never be able to afford it.

While shopping for your delicate intimates, all you need to really know what you are looking for. Since you cannot try anything on and have to wait to see if the actual piece looks like what you thought it would, think carefully. There is nothing better than picking out something sexy and not having to leave the house to do it. You want to be able to pick out something that suits your need and be able to trust the source at the same time. Know who you are shopping from online and only buy from names you recognize. At Simply Delicious Lingerie and Simply Luscious Lingerie we only buy from the best manufacturers and offer you the most incredible merchandise from our top 5 distributors and warehouses all in the USA (Pennsylvania and California.)

Be sure to read the return policy carefully in case something does not fit or was not what you thought it would be. Online lingerie shopping can be a huge amount of fun if you play it safe. The problem at hand is that most lingerie store (by law) are not permitted to to merchandise back as a return due to health issues and the law. Shopping online can be so much fun! There is no more feeling awkward trying things on knowing people are right there in the same dressing room area as you are. You are in the privacy and safety of your house where no one will ever know what you are doing.

Make sure that what you are choosing fits and suits you. Never not look at the model in the picture to make your online lingerie decision. You have to ask yourself if the piece you like would look best on you? Will it hug your curves and make you feel ‘oh so sexy?’ Every woman has her own body design and you will need to make sure that your online lingerie purchase will fill your specific needs. It is way too easy to get carried away with all the glitz and glamour but you will end up with something that doesn’t suit you at all. Be realistic and know what you enjoy wearing before going the online route. Flattery to your body is the key to your online shopping success.

 Ladies, shake your money maker…and always accentuate your best features! On the same note, you may wish to hide the things that make you feel most awkward. So know before you order what looks good on you so you can stick with similar designs. The online lingerie options are endless and can be quite over-whelming. Make sure you know what colors look best on you. It is not enough to know just your size and favorite style. You have to know what will make you look good. This is a one shot deal and you will not know till well after the money is spent if you do not look good in it.

Make sure to actually read about the particular lingerie outfit you are getting or considering. What do I mean by this? Check it out online. Cross reference the piece (s) to see if you are getting the best quality of goods. You will want to know what it is made of before it arrives in the mail. It is not just about being sexy. You will want to make sure the piece you pick out is made of a material you are comfortable wearing. You should have experience with a particular fabric before purchasing it online for the first time.

With the exception of silk of course, which is the most comfortable and softest material in lingerie you can get. If you have never heard of it do not go there. You will have no idea until it is too late if it is irritating or itchy. When buying any thing with lace online know if it will be rubbing against the nipple area. Talk about an awkward feeling? Ouch! Most lace is very irritating to the nipple and can cause pain and discomfort. (so make a mental note of that!) It is hard to know exactly what you will be getting when shopping online so be sure to read about everything you are interested in. As always, this type of research will help you to know what to look for and what it is you are looking for. W want you to not only look sexy on but feel sexy from the inside out. Shop with us today. 

We sell sexy lingerie that comes in a wide variety of options, sizes and colors. We also offer a plus size lingerie wholesale club for those wishing to buy lingerie at low, low prices way beyond retail. If you are not sure about what you desire or have questions, ask our fashionista for some assistance. She’s always there to give a girl, or a guy some ideas and suggestions! Please….Do not think for one moment that online lingerie shopping is just for those naughty nights…these days, shopping online is the ONLY way to shop! For low prices, and discreet shopping, we respect you as well as your privacy. Whether it be just to buy something to slip on underneath your clothes for that sexy edge, for a getaway weekend, your wedding day, or for absolutely anyday...we hope that you will choose us!We look forward to seeing you soon! Come with us and explore the possibilities. Say YES! 
We are your everyday sexy!

With Warmest Regards,

The Simply Delicious Lingerie & Simply Luscious Lingerie Staff

Simply Delicious Lingerie

Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we've personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, bustier, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy sets, matching sets, wholesale lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing...the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit us; www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  www.SimplyLusciousLingerie.com 

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$89.99 Sex Swing = Fantasy + Foreplay

Everyone loves to get erotic and turn up the heat in the bedroom. Sooo, who gets excited quicker? Men or women? Estrogen is far more powerful within the female sexual desire than testosterone could ever hope to be, or so it's been said. With that being said they also say that men also have two to 20 times more testosterone than women, but this does not mean men have 20 times more sex drive. Does this mean that they get more turned on/aroused? Someone recently said don’t make sex a routine, try new things and take turns initiating—your sex life will improve drastically. Share the romance and get sensual together. Suggestion? We sell the 'Whip Smart Pleasure Swing' and that's all you need to have a new level of intimacy. Men, Women, and Swingers...everyone is buying them!

What can men and women do to stir up a little foreplay? Well fellas, there are a few things;

It's been said that; Women Responding to Praise Actually Stimulates Them....
True, true, true! It’s believed that men are so consumed by our libido (imagine that?) that we have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered longgggg before reaching the bedroom. Women fall victim to praise and it turns us on like crazy. It's no longer the boys that need their egos stroked, us gals tend to like it a little bit too!

We Appreciate, Desire, and L-O-V-E  SEX!
Having said that about intimacy, sometimes a little “throw-me-down sex” is the right medicine. Who doesn't enjoy some rug burn from time to time? Hey, you have to keep it real and colorful! They say that men want their partners/lovers/wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally. For men, it’s not about dominating a woman, but ravishing her. On occasion, try letting him ravish you ladies...you'll turn your man on and he will be putty in your hands. Let them be in charge...two words; Reddi Whip. Every woman should ALWAYS have a can in the fridge. It's instant turn on and who doesn't enjoy a 'body sundae' to arouse him in a game of foreplay?

I SAY: Encourage Fantasies
We sell fantasy costumes that will bring him to his knees, and we sell men's bedroom costumes that will have her intoxicated in lust. I read recently that; Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them...You see, men wish women would reveal their imaginings. Want to open yourself to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. First, and most important, promise not to judge the other; then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized you and place them in a box. When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you’re both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, ask this question: What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, its themes can be addressed in different, more comfortable scenarios.

We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think...Get over your bad-self!
Men are accused of being sexually insatiable, but women should rethink this.  It has also been said that men see sex as a celebration. They wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to it. We move through life at the speed of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. If that doesn’t make you want to hop to it, then consider the health benefits why don't you? Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called the “bonding hormone, bringing couples closer together while it alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing. Isn't it time you bought the sex swing and enjoyed fantasy and foreplay in hours of mind bending passionate fun?


BUY IT NOW!! 

Simply Delicious Lingerie

Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we've personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing...the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit http://simplydeliciouslingerie.com/   Say YES (your everyday sexy) to Simply Delicious Lingerie! ®

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SEX SWING...ThE pErFeCt VaLeNTinEs DaY GiFt!

Valentines Day is right around the corner. So what should you buy for your mate that will turn a dull romance of fizzle into hot steamy sizzle? I have the answer! Everyone talks about them, or peeks to see what they are and who uses them...so allow me to share with you what my #1 seller on my website is next to our lingerie. May I introduce to you...the sex swing! That's right, sex swing, sex swing, sex swing! Couples around the globe are talking about these and now you can own one for your own private pleasure! Visit our Delicious Deals page today and start shopping! http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/sex-swing-whip-smart-pleasure-swing

Simply Delicious Lingerie sells the whip smart pleasure swing, a bondage love swing, a spinning fantasy swing, and the fetish fantasy yoga sex swing. We offer the lowest prices! These products are in high demand but at SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com we manage to keep them in stock. Three is something to be said about the sex swing. Adult Industries or toys and novelty sites are linking my swings to their websites. Swingers can't get enough of these. If you would like to share my products with me on your business, contact me please. I do offer profit sharing per item/order based on a percentage of each sale. If you have a website or a blog page and wish to entice your followers, and assist me in selling the sex swings, please contact me; Michele@SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com 

 The true definition of the sex swing: A sex swing (also known as a sling) is a type of harness designed to allow sexual intercourse while a partner is suspended while the other moves freely. Though there is considerable variety in the exact specifications, the most common sex swings have a support for the back, another for the buttocks and stirrups for each leg, which can be adjusted whilst the user is suspended. These will hold up to 200 pounds with springs or up to 400 pounds without.

There are the following types of swings: Traditional Swing, Door Swing and Body Swing. Body swing uses one partner's body as a swing stand. The Door Swing is mounted on the door. None of these swings require drilling a hole in the ceiling, which makes them easier to use. This will entertain you for hours of fun filled passion. Isn't it time you give in to your wicked temptations? 

Now through February 2013, and in light of our '5th Year Anniversary' in business, come celebrate with Simply Delicious Lingerie.com by shopping and saving 25% off your entire purchase over $25. Use code; 5SDL (at checkout) for your additional savings! 

Don't wait...Buy your sex swing today! www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com 

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We We Tease & Tantalize...We're Simply Delicious Lingerie

Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we work hard day in and day out to bring to all of you the most exquisite lingerie. For the bachelorette parties and for those of you whom wish to host a lingerie party we have two categories not always open to the public eye. These include our sexy lingerie as well as some adult toys and novelty. The Whip Smart Pleasure Swing is one of our number one sellers and can be found with some other sensual products in the Delicious Deals section on our homepage. www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com

Our face and look continues to change nevertheless, our prices have remained low and affordable. From babydolls and sexy matching sets to shoes and on to sex swings we have just what you need to fire up your love life! Take a peek in our store and find that right intimate apparel piece for you!We aim to please, and we guarantee teasing and tantalizing is the best foreplay. Isn't it time that you kicked it up a notch in the bedroom? Do you know what you have been missing? Carly Rae Jepsen sang "before you came into my life I missed you so bad"...so hey, here's our number and we're open 365/24/7. If you've not experienced our exceptional sales team that brings to you our distinguished intimate apparel, what are you waiting for, bring Simply Delicious Lingerie into your life NOW!

Coming soon is our new line of lingerie products to be mentioned at a later date in addition to the already beautiful and intriguing Carrie Amber Intimates that we are so very proud to carry. We are currently adding our costumes both for the bedroom and Halloween so check us out and see what all the fuss is about!
While we promise to keep our costs low, we continue to ask for comments from all of you to determine what else we could do to not only earn your trust and your business, rather to keep you coming back for more because you can find everything you desire at one store, ours!
Thanks so much for your support and continued patronage! Say YES to Simply Delicious Lingerie® We are your everyday sexy!


The Simply Delicious Lingerie Staff

Is Your Spouse Cheating?

10 Signs of Cheating Spouse Activity

This is a must read. If two or more of these are appearing in your significant others life style, you better take notice! While many people see marriage as a committed relationship where fidelity is essential, there are others who see nothing wrong with a dalliance outside the marriage now and then. Usually, their spouses do not share that philosophy. If you suspect that you and your spouse have differing opinions on the issue of fidelity, here are 10 signs of cheating spouse activity you should be on the lookout for and although sad to say this, if the writing is on the walls...don't wash it off. Take action!

1. He or she suddenly is working late. If there is a raise, a special project, or a possible promotion in the offing, this may be legitimate and free of any hanky panky. But if it seems as if your spouse works late one, then two, then three nights a week without any of these situations existing, something may be up.

2. New clothes. If your spouse begins to purchase clothing that is a little younger or a little different in style from what he or she normally likes, it may be a sign of the influence of a new playmate. This is especially true if these new styles are not anything you have suggested would look good on your spouse.

3. Sexy undergarments. If your man goes from wearing boxers to bikini briefs without asking your opinion, then he did not buy them for your benefit. By the same token, if a woman buys sexy lingerie and does not model the ensemble for her husband, rest assured somebody else is getting the benefit of the visual delight.

4. Fresh scents. If your spouse has worn the same cologne or perfume for years and decides to go with something new and trendy, this may be an attempt to become more desirable - to someone other than you. Pay attention!

5. Change in Hygiene Habits. More frequent showers, changing soaps and shampoos for no apparent reason, and carrying breath mints around after avoiding them like the plague for years means something is probably up.

6. Preoccupation. If a spouse is cheating, there is often a certain amount of withdrawal. The cheating spouse becomes quieter around the house, often contributing less to conversations.

7. Decrease in sexual activity. When a spouse who used to display a great deal of interest in engaging in sex and being affectionate begins to be tired and have frequent headaches at bedtime, it could be they are having their needs met elsewhere.

8. Overcompensation. This is one of the most common of all the 10 signs of cheating spouse activity. The cheating wife may go out of her way to be understanding when her husband wants to go out with his buddies. In like manner, the cheating husband may start showing up with flowers and other little gifts for no apparent reason.

9. Money is disappearing. Motel rooms are not free. If money seems to be a little tighter even though the family budget shows no new bills, something may be up.

10. Changes in temperament. Cheating spouses may suddenly become easily irritated, or develop a great deal of apathy. This loss in interest may begin in the bedroom and spread to other areas of the marriage in a short period of time. 

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Fifty Shades of Grey...Erotica and Exotica

This book has had everyone talking...You've heard whispers and giggles, and you've wondered to yourself... "What are they talking about?" Often it takes a popular television series or a song gone dirty to get people talking about otherwise taboo sex topics. However, most recently, it’s the best-selling erotic novel “50 Shades of Grey,” which follows the dominant-submissive relationship between a powerful businessman and a college student, complete with explicit S&M sex scenes has people all around talking. This no doubt has been the buzz of the town. 

Undoubtedly your neighbor has read it, so has your hairdresser, the bank teller, the cashier at the grocery store, your dry cleaner attendant, flight attendant, the gal at Taco Bell's, McDonald's and Burger Kings drive thru, your librarian, coworkers and OMG...maybe even your mother! "50 Shades of Grey" has been shining some light on women’s desires and getting women all over the country to talk more openly about their sex lives. While the writing may not be the best we’ve ever read, we can’t deny the sex appeal. Obviously, we’re not the only ones who are intrigued by the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey!  So just what are people are saying about the hot (and hot-selling) trilogy? “There is something America finds erotic about a broad cross-section of women, including suburban mothers and women of a certain age, digging on highly-sexualized content of read.

Since its re-release in April, it’s been shaking up book clubs, bedrooms—even sparking a debate about the power dynamics between women and men. Who knew right? Listen, it was just a matter of time before all the wild escapades of our sexual frustrations came pouring out. I've been on this wagon for a while, thus being why I sell sexy lingerie and sex swings, etc for play time in the bedroom. Though only a small part of the population reports fantasizing about sadomasochism/bondage (8 percent, according to a Durex global survey), the theme has piqued interest on a mass scale. Try this bondage swing for couples, an excellent choice in the bedroom! http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/sex-swing-whip-smart-pleasure-swing/bondage-love-swing

Assertive women enjoy the idea of being submissive in bed, more than traditionally submissive women. Wow! Surprisingly, women who enjoyed these forceful submission fantasies weren’t submissive in their lives outside of the bedroom. In fact, the most aggressive group of females preferred a fantasy where they were dominated. And real life “non-controllers” (women who have less agency in social situations) had the least preference for sexual submission.

One explanation is that dominant females pursue dominant males, as they do in the animal kingdom. Catching the attention of a dominant male means you’ve risen to the top of the pack, so acting out that fantasy (where he pursues, you resist and that power struggle leads to hot, hot sex) reinforces a woman’s status and desirability, which makes her feel good about herself. (Note that you can sub in any gender and the same theory applies.) While that’s just one possible explanation, the point here is that at its core, this fantasy enhances ones self esteem.

Men like when women take control in the bedroom.
Oh yes they certainly do! Women get all the attention for having forceful submission fantasies. But it’s a very common sexual fantasy for men, too.Take the classic romance novel vignette of being led into the bedroom by someone who “hasn’t been able to take their eyes off you” and insists they must “take what they’ve wanted all night.” When guys read this from the perspective of a woman coming onto them so strongly, they were totally into it. While some people have tried to shame women for submissive fantasies or explain it away as masochism, submission and self-respect can easily go hand-in-hand.


Let's talk about....Sex Toys
Sex Toy shopping can be very intimidating for some people. I get emails and people facebook me messages all of the time from women and couples who have no idea where to start. And, there are just some people who will NEVER walk into a sex toy store no matter what. It is just not in their personality no matter how "female oriented" a store is designed. (Some people are even shy buying online and over the phone!)
This article is for women or a couple who has no idea where to start and once they buy the toy what to do with it once they have it in their home.
So, my advice is to always start small and inexpensive. There is always time to graduate to the big guns. But, if you are buying your first sex toy then I believe under $50 is a good rule.

 About Simply Delicious Lingerie

Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we've personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing. Have a lingerie party with us and experience fun!  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit http://simplydeliciouslingerie.com/  Say YES (your everyday sexy) to Simply Delicious Lingerie! ®

  

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Whip Smart Pleasure Swing $119.99

SUPER SALE! WHIP SMART PLEASURE SWING!

Our #1 seller! 50 Shades of Grey readers need to try this one out for size! See what others are talking about! It is erotic and sensual fun! Retailed at $259 - Our Delicious Deals section of our website we are offering this to you for only $119.99. These are selling quickly...Don't let this one swing by you! Buy yours today! Free Shipping for the holidays.

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Description: Retail to $259. Includes display package as shown. Padded straps. From the manufacturer and The Pleasure Swing holds up to 200 pounds with the spring - or 400 without - which means both of you can easily swing together. The strong nylon straps are adjustable and extra wide for maximum strength and flexibility - and the heavy duty spring makes sex extra bouncy fun! The ultimate sexual apparatus - the Pleasure Swing is nearly 100 % preassembled and ready for action. Soft padded - heavy duty straps for feet - ankles - calves or thighs ensure maximum comfort. A special eyelet bolt enables swing to rotate. For the serious sexual adventurer, envision wicked temptations with your partner! Sold as an adult novelty.

We offer this hot ticket item in our Delicious Deals section of our website. http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/sex-swing-whip-smart-pleasure-swing/whip-smart-pleasure-swing-sex-swing


Why Buy the Sex Swing?
Comment:  Merilee Brewn, Arkadelphia Arkansas

 At first, I worried that trying sex in a swing would make regular, toy-free sex seem blah. Wrong, wrong, wrong... So wrong. I had a blast using this erotic swing, and I’ll definitely be anxious to use it again, but switching back to good old fashioned sex-in-a-bed was great in that I just kept thinking, “THIS IS SO EASY.” Which is to say, variety is good. Sex swings are such a treat. But, trying something new can also make you appreciate what you already have. Yes, that’s more of a general life lesson than a sex lesson. Yes, the sex swing has made me that much wiser. Try it...You'll be so glad that you did. It's something that you'll be enticed with for hours. It give erotic a whole new spin!

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Keeping Your Marriage Balanced

Dating is fun for most people but it certainly can be quite stressful at the same time.When you're just starting in a new relationship, you have so much to talk about! You may find that you share many of the same hopes and dreams for the future. You begin to see if you may be compatible down the road, and if you do, this is all good. As the relationship grows, you want to be sure you're building a 

rock-solid foundation on which to base your relationship. Having that solid foundation will help your relationship weather the storms of life and bring you joy together. My grandmothers advice was always "keep the communication lines open!"

In the past it wasn't unusual for couples to stay married to the same person for their entire adult life. Take my parents for example. It will be their 50th wedding anniversary this October. In the past, it was expected that you would only have one spouse unless death took them away. Today? Not so much.  It was also expected that couples would buy a home and remain in that community to raise their children. Today...again, not so much. Today with economy it's become the '"go where the work and money are" deal. Commitment and community stability were two of the mainstays of the solid foundation marriages were built upon. Things sure have changed in many ways. 

Modern Marriages

In today's global economy, you're no longer expected to stay in your same community your entire life. You may, instead, travel the country or the world during your professional career. However, you can still have a committed marriage that grows stronger as the years pass.

Unfortunately though, it seems that people today are afraid of true commitment. Does this surprise you? It doesn't surprise me at all. Instead of entering a marriage with the intention to stick around no matter what, many people go into marriage with the idea that, "I can always get a divorce if things don't work out." Having that idea, even if it's not a conscious thought, makes leaving much easier when the going gets tough.I'm sorry, but truth be told, that is such a cop out! Really? People don't try hard any more. Everyone just gives up. Divorce attorneys sure don't seem to mind, do they?

So how does a marriage last in today's society? The road to a committed marriage with a rock-solid foundation is a journey based upon a familiar road map. A couple must decide if they're willing to make the journey together regardless of where the road may lead.

Here are the normal stops along the way:

1. Romance. Romantic love is the easiest form of love. In fact, it's nearly effortless. This love truly is blind. Each person believes the other is perfect and that their love can withstand any stresses that may come. This period generally lasts about two years but can change as early as six months.

2. Adjustments. After the blinders come off, the couple begins to realize their beloved isn't as perfect as they thought. There may also be a small hiccup in their relationship as adjustments are made. This is where the real relationship begins.

3. Compromise. A power struggle usually occurs after each partner realizes they must adjust some of their dreams for reality. At this point one or both may decide to leave the relationship. However, if they can stand together during this time, the relationship has a very good chance of beating the odds. Too many people want to throw in the towel today. You just don't toss a good marriage aside for small faults...you work together to build it and make it better. Sure this can be difficult, and it requires a lot of patience. We aren't perfect, and we make a lot of mistakes along the way. We develop habits, some not so good, but we are human.

• This is a crucial time of learning to solve problems, negotiating to get what they want, and resolving conflicts. What does this mean in short? It's quite simple actually.... it means we have arguments, and we get upset by little things our spouses do. It is the small things that nag at us day in and day out...they forget to put the toilet seat down, they leave the OJ container in the fridge with a few drops left in it rather than throwing it out, they don't always pick up after themselves well. Perhaps they leave the plunger out in the bathroom out so that we stumble on it time and time again rather than putting it under the vanity until it makes us so mad that we throw it right out the window. Yes, that will get his attention!

4. Re-evaluation. To keep the happy balance, next comes a point where each one re-evaluates their relationship. They turn to friends and family to get confirmation that they weren't foolish after all. An affair is more likely now than at nearly any other point of a relationship.

• They must hold fast to their commitment and re-learn who they are as individuals.

5. Together again. There is a drawing together again from this point. They may still have conflicts and differences, but each one is more giving and forgiving where needed. They've weathered some storms and are ready for the next stop.

6. Acceptance. This is the end of the road for building a rock-solid foundation. They've learned to express their own needs while looking out for the needs of their partner. No one expects the other to meet their every need, and there is a balance of being individuals as well as a couple.They can now meet any storm head on and come out standing together with the foundation intact. From this point forward, their love and commitment can only grows stronger.

 On top of the foundation of love and commitment, there needs to be trust, conscious attention to your partner, and mutual respect. With these building blocks placed upon a solid foundation, your relationship will always be strong and love will always be your key to happiness. Finding the right balance takes time and much effort in a marriage...nonetheless, dedication and hard work. No one ever said marriage was easy...but then again, someone once told me that anything worth having is worth fighting for, so if you have hit a rough spot in your marriage, and you come to that fork in the road where you don't know which way to go, I say...fix the bumps. Smooth things out, you'll be glad that you did.

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