FOREPLAY...

If you were to ask me what is foreplay? My response would be something like this;
It is said that with human sexual behavior, foreplay is a set of intimate psychological and physical acts between two or more people, meant to build up sexual arousal. Foreplay takes place in preparation for sexual intercourse or another act meant to bring about mutual sexual gratification or orgasm. Isn’t that about how you would sum it up? I pondered that statement for a bit and while thinking about it, I opened an email from someone who shared with me what it is that he desires in a woman.

He said to me today; “Foreplay does not start in the bedroom. It is in the way a woman’s hand is taken to walk down the steps, the pleasure that she gets knowing you will open a door for her, or pull out her chair. It is the joy she sees that you take in finding surprises that simply delicious her. It is the thousand little gestures, a tone of voice, the subtle way you touch her arm or the back of her neck…romance and sensuality run deep in his soul. In my personal opinion, that was…Very well said!
For the longest time, foreplay was considered to be something that a man had to do to get his partner ready for sexual intercourse. It’s no longer just a mans world and we women like to play all the same. Today, foreplay has become an integral part of the whole lovemaking experience. It is true that impromptu sexual encounters without foreplay can sometimes be some of the best sexual experiences ever!
 
So, psychologically, foreplay lowers inhibitions and increases the emotional comfort level between partners. Physically, it helps to produce an erection in men, allowing them to penetrate an orifice, and it helps to promote vaginal lubrication in women, which allows penetration to take place comfortably. Foreplay can take many forms, and can take place, up to a point at least, in public. This kiss has many of the characteristics of foreplay; whether or not kissing is foreplay depends on where the couple goes from here.

If the potential partner accepts the sexual invitation, foreplay has begun. Accepting the invitation is often indicated by reciprocating with similar behavior.At some point, foreplay typically becomes physical. Simple and seemingly innocuous acts, such as straightening someone’s clothing or hair, bumping into someone while walking, stroking someone’s arm, or whispering in someone’s ear can constitute foreplay. Holding hands, other touching (especially of the face), kissing, biting, massaging, or scratching any area of the body can all qualify as foreplay.


There is no such thing as the ultimate foreplay, and it is not about pressing the right buttons in any particular order. There is no order. The direction you take is simply up to you and the mood tone. It is about understanding what makes your partner get hot and delivering the things that make her experience intense pleasure. All women are different. None of us are the same. We all like what we like, and why not, we are women and part of being a woman is not always knowing what we want. What I do know is that when a man does something to make us feel good, we respond. Some women get off on being lightly kissed all over their necks while others enjoy direct oral stimulation.


There are many ways to give your partner extreme sensations, but one thing is for sure: It all begins in her brain. Women, just like men love to have our egos stroked too. So go ahead, tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate her sexy body. By complimenting her appearance, especially if her confidence level is low, you are giving her added security and excitement, as well as giving her good reasons to go all out with the foreplay. There is no right or wrong moves to foreplay. It’s all about eye contact and body language. Use it, and if you don’t know how for God sakes, Learn! How important is foreplay to men you wonder? For some men it means nothing, to many it is something that yet although it seems so easy to find, women have a difficult time surrendering to a man what it is that he seeks and desires most. It is in the touch, the eyes, and in your smile.

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Why are Men Cheap?

This is for all of the women who have had their eyes on a particular man, some for months or even years, only to find out when that opportunity finally arises when you can cease the day and get him to notice you the air exits your balloon of happiness...and why? He turns out to be a real dick that's why. I hear stories from time to time but this one especially hit a nerve because it pertains to a pretty young lady that I work with whose name I will not mention but she loves 'cows!' To this young lady I say this; Any man that likes you and really wants to get to know you will move heaven and earth to make it happen. If a man (regardless of his age) wants to become part of your life, your surroundings, as well as your family and circle of friends he won't stop until he wins the affection of all those who questioned his integrity. He will roll out the red carpet and treat you like a queen, just as you should be treated! Never settle for less and always expect more! How do you find this guy and what do you look for/and not look for in a partner? Well, ask yourself a few questions?

Does he have a generous spirit?

You see, women view how a man spends -or fails to spend - his money as a direct reflection of how generous and giving he is as a person. For example, a man who calculates his every dime and rarely treats his woman, or his friends for that matter, will be seen as a tightwad who puts his own bottom line above all else. Shame on you. 

My theory is, "you can't take it with you when you go so for God sakes, enjoy it while you are alive!" This means; have fun, get to know a young lady and ask her what she wants to do? Inviting her over to watch a movie is not a date, it is a direction question in a round about way of asking her to come over and get acquainted so that you can try to get into her britches. This is not a date, it is you being a cheap ass and wanting something for nothing. In my opinion, you are a fool. Men think with the wrong head and one of these days it will surely get you in trouble. One of these days, you will wake up and realize that the 'one' you let get away could have just been the woman of your dreams and you blew it you moron! Are you serious? What kind of men do this and think for a moment that us gals don't have enough common sense to smack you in the head with a 2x4 (which BTW happens to also be the name of a new man candle at Yankee Candle.)

Women want a man who can open up allowing us to see your vulnerable side as well as your kind, loving side. You character and integrity makes you who you are. Your personality extends your warmth and compassion, so communicate with her!Get to know her, and enjoy your time with this incredible woman. She is one of a kind.

Does he respect you and treat you well?

Women love fun, but fun as in GOOFY fun, not sluty fun! Another reason why women don't like cheap men is that it is much harder to have a good time with a cheap man than it is with one who doesn't mind investing in one. Unfortunately, those activities that are the most fun tend to cost a little more. Consider watching a movie at home in your parents basement is not at all the same as taking a young lady out for dinner and to see a good film. Listen fellas, I've always said, you get what you pay for. If you want a good respected woman with morals and ethics out the wazoo, you won't find her in a short skirt, or at the mall buying clothes three sizes too small. You'll find her out at social functions,  charity events, at church, school or in a place that she feels is comforting to her. 

Respect is something that you cannot buy, you must earn it along with trust, so next time you think about asking a woman to 'come over to watch a movie' and your intentions are nothing more than you just use her to get intimate...think again my friend. She may be a girl who has been with many others, and my guess is that she is probably is not at all a good girl if she says OK all the time to visiting you in your man cave just to get lucky. Real women want security and substance.

 Keep in mind should you choose a girl at school or that you met while out at a bar or party that is (let's just say, easy and keep it at that) she's probably has just passed on to you a good STD so look whose britches are itching now? It would have been more impressive to find the woman that shows dignity and character. Yes we like to have fun, but girls want to be respected and treated well just the same. My grandmother used to always say 'if you are not shy about bringing her home to meet mama, she must be a good girl.' So ladies, ask yourself this? Have you met your guys parents or family members, if yes, way to go good for you...and if no, he is probably using you and is ashamed of you. Sorry, it all comes out the same no matter how you slice it.

Hey, how about meeting her halfway?

Yes, now there's a thought! Many women are generous by nature and love doing things for their significant others, like making them a nice dinner. It is only natural that such women expect their men to give a little bit as well, whether by taking them out for an all-expenses paid night on the town, or taking off work early to surprise them. Most women will quickly tire of doing things for their men if they get nothing in return, materially or otherwise, so fellas, pitch in and 'whoo' her now! Show here that you like adventure and spontaneous fun and that you want to get to know all about her! Take the path least traveled, you'll find more fun there and you're not doing the same thing. Do something that you both enjoy doing. Find exotic places to travel, find dive bars that serve your favorite drink in their high end red solo cups, and shop with them for items that you need for your place. By doing this, you are getting to really get inside of your partners head to find out a lot of their likes and dislikes. 

Never get played for the fool!

By no means should you always pick up the bill and buy your woman expensive gifts. If she expects it, honey you better have your track shoes and already be running for the door, because it is only going to get worse! No woman has any right to view a man as a meal ticket, not ever. The key is to strike that delicate balance between not being cheap and not being taken advantage of financially.If you find someone that you like, get to know them, and share the responsibilities. Sure it is fun when men buy us things, and if they want to that's great. What I am stating clearly is not to make demands on them and just assume that they are going to pay for everything and be your meal ticket. Don't treat them like a doormat. Always be one step ahead of the game and you'll never get burned. Show a man your classy side and he will find warmth in your heart and mind. As for you guys reading this; think about what I just said and if you are one of those arrogant slime ball guys that are cheap and only want sex, you are sad my friend. Life is short, take a good look around you and if you don't like what you see, make some changes! To this young man that I spoke about earlier in my story, you just made a very big mistake my friend, for the young lady that you let go is one in a million!

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