Let's Talk About Sex Baby...

Most of us find it easy to chat about the latest celebrity scandal or complain about who was crowned winner on last nights on American Idol. It appears that life in general is quite easy to talk about, so why then is SEX like a foreign object or topic of discussion? When it comes to the things that really matter, we often get tongue-tied and shy. Step outside of the box for a minute and let's talk about sex, shall we? Yeah, not so much huh? Many couples rarely or never discuss their sex life with each other. OK, here's a goofy question,why? That's a shame, because open communication about this topic offers a lot of advantages. Here are three reasons why talking about sex is important in a relationship. As George Michael once sang..."Let's Talk About Sex" baby...let's talk about 'you and me!" Wow...so for goodness sakes, let's talk already! Why keep this one under wraps...you can learn so much more about one another if you just express yourself!

It's a good way to get what you want

First of all, be very verbal. Yes clear communication is the most direct route to getting what you want in the bedroom. It's also the best way to learn exactly what your partner would like from you. Some people make the mistake of assuming they already know what their partner likes and needs. No matter how well you believe you know someone, he or she still has an inner life that is hidden from you until it's shared in words.

If you think about it, you'll realize that what individuals desire can - and will - change over time. It's true in all parts of life, and it's true with respect to sexual expression. If you and your lover have a certain lovemaking routine, how will either of you know that you want something a little different unless you speak up? 

It helps to clarify misunderstandings

Conversation is also the best way to clear up any misunderstandings that can crop up whenever two people interact. For example, you may be trying a new technique on your partner and suddenly she gets very quiet. You're a bit confused about what that means. Does she like what you're doing? Does she hate what you're doing? You might forget about it in the passion of the moment, but later you remember and you're still wondering. Now, if you are comfortable talking about sex, you can ask your partner what was going on at that moment.

If you're willing and able to discuss sex with your partner, you can also give effective feedback. For example, you can say to your partner "remember when you were touching me in that certain way - wow, I loved it - you should do that again!" This type of praise and feedback is immensely gratifying for anyone to hear. And mentioning the precise thing you enjoyed is a sure-fire way of making it happen again. 

It's fun

Yes, conversation about sex can really be a lot of fun! Pull out the fantasy costumes while your at it. We sell them at www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  and they are flirty and fun! Once you get past your initial nervousness, you and your partner can have some very interesting and thought-provoking discussions. Merely talking about sex can be a huge turn-on. Why not use this fact to your advantage? Entice your partner by putting into words the new sensual activity you'd like to try. Or describe in vivid detail the pleasurable things you are going to do to him or her when you are finally alone together.

Good communication is essential if a couple wants to have a happy and satisfying love life. Although it may be scary to break the ice, you'll quickly discover the benefits of discussing sex openly and directly with your partner. By sharing your erotic thoughts, ideas, and wishes, the two of you will develop a greater level of intimacy that will have rewards even outside the bedroom. 

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What Makes a Great Relationship?

Lets face it...we lay awake at night often wondering what makes a great relationship? If you are in one now you may be wondering what you can do to make it better, or enhance it if you will? No matter how long you have been in your current relationship, there are three things that you absolutely must do to keep the passion and intimacy alive and growing. Do not be afraid to get a little risque! Although it is true that many things in a relationship may change over time, there is one thing that every couple would want to keep alive – the passion and intimacy. Surveys have revealed, however, that while couples want this is their relationship, very few actually manage to maintain it. In fact, more than 80% of relationships rate their intimacy and sex life as being less that what they would like.

This is a very sad statistic and there are a number of reasons why this is the case. One of the main causes is that we are simply not taught how to create, maintain and develop intimate relationships. It's not a part of our school system, so most people learn their intimate relationship skills from observing their parents' relationship or – even worse – from talking to their friends and peers.

There are three key things to a great relationship. They are things that the few couples with great relationships – those who do manage to maintain the passion and intimacy – have in common.

1. The relationship is the most important thing in the lives of both partners. When couples realize the truth that nothing has more of an impact on their happiness than the quality of their relationship, they tend to make it their top priority. That doesn't mean they don't do anything else, but it does mean that their decisions are based on the impact they will have on their relationship. Make your relationship the most important thing in your life and many other problems will sort themselves out.
       
2. The couple works on their intimacy. It is a total myth that intimacy just “happens naturally.” Like everything else in life, it must be given some conscious work and attention if it is to survive.
       
3. The partners make acts of intimacy into habits. Smiling at each other, touching, calling each other on the phone or texting when apart – these are small acts of intimacy that, when done habitually, make a hugely positive impact on the quality of the relationship. These couples know that doing things once in a while is not very effective; it is the cumulative effect of small things over time that determines the whole dynamic of a relationship.

If you are in a relationship and really want to improve the levels of intimacy and passion with your partner, think back to the time when you first got together. What were some of the things you did then that you no longer do? You will see that the three keys above were all part of your relationship then, and are what have slid as the relationship progressed...See where you may or may not have taken a wrong turn and get back on the right path.

So what do you need to do to get your romance back on the steamy charts? Get dirty, get sexy and be aggressive! Remember what brought you together and what turned you on about your partner!

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Great Relationships Don't Just happen...

Great relationships just don't happen, they take years of practice and a lot of growing. True or False? I don't personally think that it takes years, nevertheless, it does take patience and understanding. We'll let's see...Contrary to popular belief and, perhaps, our own fantasy life, good relationships don't just "happen". They take thoughtfulness, time, love, and work. Progressing through recognizable stages, all relationships experience crises and demand at least some flexibility on our parts. A willingness to stay together through the storms is the only way to get to the peacefulness on the other side. Yet (in my opinion) it is all very much worth it. In order to succeed, you need one thing, and it's quite simple...You need TRUST and you must communicate! It's real simple folks. You either have it or you don't.

Trust  is the glue that holds your relationship together, especially when times get rocky. As important as trust is to the well-being of your relationship, the need for your partner to be able to trust you is often times taken for granted or disregarded all together. Of all the relationship skills that you will read about, there’s no skill easier to execute than acting in a trustworthy way. Here’s a simple formula for building trust in your relationship—make sure that your words and actions match. Always do what you say that you’re going to do!

Great Relationships

Want to maintain a great relationship? Here's what you need to succeed:
Respect – the single greatest part of a relationship. Do you respect your partner? You should. If you don't you need to start doing it. How do you show it? Do you say nice things about them in front of your friends or other people, or do you criticize and whine about their weak areas? Lift your partner up, it's good for the mind and ones ego.

Do something nice for your partner – when was the last time you did something nice for your partner without them asking? How about giving them a massage, helping out with dinner, making them coffee, cleaning up around the house – there’s a thousand things you can do. The little things help so much in a relationship – do something nice often, it will make a world of difference.

Pay compliments – You should always try and compliment your mate/partner/spouse on a regular basis. Compliments are not fake statements made to get something back for yourself – a compliment has to be genuine! If you don’t believe what you’re saying, don’t say it – really. There’s gotta be many good points about your partner – when you appreciate something that they do, for goodness sakes, tell them. Do they look nice today? Do they look sexy? Should they shop at www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com? YES! When? Now! Have they done something nice? If so tell them to check us out. Our prices are affordable!

 Don't be a Schmuck...Be appreciative – everyone should take time out of their day to be thankful for the good things in their lives. Be thankful for your partner, for your relationships – take the time to realize you are blessed.

Do things together – What things do you have in common? What things do you not like doing with your partner? Find something you both like to do and just hang out. Building a great relationship is much easier if you actually like doing things together. Laugh! Play! Go for a bike ride, go to the movies, play a game of tennis, go swimming, play cards, go on a wine tour, go out for breakfast, play twister… Together, you are unique – find something you like and do it together, at least on a moderately regular basis.


Imperfections...Yup, we all have them! – listen up because this one’s important. After you have found that perfect person, life is sweet! You’re walking on air! Then one day you wake up and realize that your partner has a habit of leaving the milk out on the bench every day, and it irritates you. You discover they have bad nasal hair… You find out they have a snorty laugh that’s really annoying! The point is (listen carefully) nobody’s perfect! When you start to dwell on the other person’s imperfections, have a think about yourself! Are you perfect? Of course not – there’s just as many irritating things that you do. Try not to sweat the little things – and work on your own problems.




Grass is greener syndrome – ever wonder if you’ve found the right person? Finding someone else attractive? Do you realize many people regret affairs for the rest of their lives? Factor in the previous point on perfection – if you change your partner and go off with someone else, will you find something else you don’t like about them? Probably… I’m not suggesting you put up with a mediocre relationship just because it’s never going to be completely perfect in all ways – I’m just saying don’t let your mind fool you into thinking life would be great if only I was with that hot chick/or that sexy guy! Don’t wreck something great just because your mind (or eyes) are wandering. You will regret it!Hang on to what you have and be thankful each and every day that he/she came into your life, and stay in your own yard!