It's In His Kiss!

We all think about it, in fact, for some, it's what is thought about all evening. Why? For a lot of reasons actually. Excitement and Romance. We all want to know if his lips will win our heart or send him to the curb with a one way ticket home? It's sort of like the game Monopoly, if you win, you get to pass go and collect your $200 buckaroos, if your kiss sucks, like the other game, your in TROUBLE!

So, when does it generally happen? At the end of a first date comes that awkward moment when you must decide if you want to kiss her or not? Do you like her enough to want to take her out again or do you feel the ole' sister vibe where you realize throughout the evening that you'd be better off as friends? Also, if you do kiss her it had better be good to make a favorable impression. It may not be fair, but some single women will judge you on your first kiss as to whether she would be attracted to you want to date you again.

In other words, she must feel some chemistry when she kisses you. Listen up fellas; If you are a lousy kisser, then you're going to be a failure at creating good chemistry between you and your date. Is chemistry important on a first date? You bet it is! And if you're a great kisser, you're going to turn her on and have an edge on the other guys that date her that are lousy kissers.


There are so many ways that first kiss can go terribly wrong, but most are easily avoided. Pay close attention here...

BEWARE:

• Moving too quickly
  Be careful not to startle the kissee - watch and wait for the signal to proceed.
  If you aren't sensitive in your kissing, how empathetic and caring can you be about the rest of the realtionship...
• Wet, sloshy, squishy, fishy kissesIf you or the kissee need to wipe your lips, or chin, dry after the kiss - well, it wasn't 'perfect' was it?
• Smothering kiss of death
  Avoid the over-passionate, insensitive kiss that leaves the kissee gasping for air.
• Chapped, Cracked Lips
  There's a delicate balance to lip moisture equation. The last thing you want to do is drool on your partner,..you're not 5 years old here, but you definitely don't want to leave scars with crispy, chafed lips either.

Too much Tongue and Too Much, Too Soon
Keep that tongue tucked away until you get the right signals, then apply with caution - later..no woman wants your tongue down her throat for goodness sakes, control that thing will you!

Dragon Breath
A mint or two, breath saver, gum, spray - anything to get rid of gunk-mouth.

Weak, Wobbly or Wooden Passionless Pecks
The swoop in and bounce out kiss is simply meaningless - unless of course you want to impart a "let's just sort-of be friends" type of message.

Smacking, Clacking Loud KissesThe old "clack and smack" kills romance in a flash.

Regardless of our age, a kiss is not just a kiss...so make this one matter!




 
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Mr. Right, Right Now?

Just a small town girl, living in a lonely world.......Took the midnight train, boat, ferry, plane, or rental car..... going anywhere, because she wanted to see the world.....So where does one begin?.....

Every now and then, we are fortunate enough to have someone come into our lives when we least expect them to and set us back, I mean they really knock our socks off, and....they throw a monkey wrench right into our perfect plans that we had mapped out for months, if not longer and within a matter of months, we find ourselves looking at our life/lifestyles in an entirely new perspective.

I consider myself a very friendly, outgoing and most content woman.....but a woman who was on a designated mission to move closer to home to a city where she was born because it wasn't at all a big city and she wouldn't get lost in the hustle and bustle there, rather, she'd run her businesses, look after her family and enjoy life building her small empire with no distractions. Time on her hands to visit shipping companies and warehouses, meet with new and some current manufactures, line up new partnerships with boutiques and small businesses, and hire staff that would allow her company to expand at a rate that she had planned almost to the "T" ........Well,  that was the plan a few months ago......but always on the "back burner".....somehow, she never stopped believing.....that one day when she wasn't looking, something grander would happen to her that would be so unforgettable.....so change of life factor....but what?

Last fall, while visiting with her parents and discussing old times on an old street, the neighborhood she grew up in, she started bringing up friends and old neighbors from her past and wondering "where are they now?" She quickly got onto Face Book and began typing in names and sure enough she found so many old friends that she attended school with, friends that lived there and moved away, and even a few people that she babysat for long, long ago......

How great could the odds be to meet a man who was searching for everything that you were? Perhaps this someone was divorced for the past several years and had never really experienced the kind of true love from fairy tales, those same fairy tales that this particular Cinderella believed in and had also hoped for as long as she could remember?

My grandmother always used to say "Things happen when you least expect them to" and ......."Don't look a gift horse in the mouth!".....so we won't. Two paths are about to meet head on shortly and although this woman bubbling with such anticipation and happiness, who is so "not" used to having her world jolted and her bubble burst, is terrified that once again, that this too shall pass and an opportunity will be lost.......what? She wants to feel weak in the knees! That guard wall  that she build so high around her was beginning to crumble down, all because of one man. Those barriers that were formed to protect her heart were now nothing more than jello walls waiting to endure this next chapter in her life where she comes home to not only her prince, but to her far away castle in a kingdom of hope,.... where dreams and fairy tales really do come true!

Did this gal wait most all of her life to find that one man who could make her dreams come true, who could care for her and respect her, could make her laugh and cry (good tears) do silly things, allow her to be herself, moonwalk in public (well maybe not really in public,) march to the beat of her own drum, and eventually  if all circumstances fell into place maybe, just maybe...... find love?

You bet she could, because that stubborn, sassy, sensual, soft spoken lady always held out hoping that somewhere out there he would be.....Well stranger things have happened. Some will say that you have better chances of being struck by lightening vs find true love? If there is a risk to take, finding love or getting struck by lightening, I'll hold out a metal rod to hoping to attract my Mr Right. Yes, life is all about taking chances! If you don't try or you don't seek from time to time, someone else might find the man of "your" dreams. Although I still believe in paths crossing for reasons, at this stage of my life, I wouldn't think twice about tripping him and bringing him to his knees to make him see what a catch I am! A girls got to do what a girls got to do!

Journey said it best....."Don't stop... believin' hold on to that feeling...."

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Awkward First Kiss

Ok, so it all comes down to this; Some men are great at flirting and creating sexual tension, then smoothly transition into that first kiss. Others take a bad situation and make it worse by attempting to execute a kiss oblivious of the chemistry between them, hence the awkward kiss. Not all men are Rico Suave and not all men know how to operate their mouths and motor skills....this could be a problem. The last thing you want is to get excited and giddy about that kiss until he opens his mouth and practically swallows yours! Yuck!Yes, this can be devastating to a first date. It can be the "make it" or "break it" of dates.The awkwardness happens only when it feels forced because it’s the protocol to share a kiss at the door at the end of a date. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve also had a mediocre date turn amazing because of his superior kissing abilities..... But let’s be honest, that doesn’t happen often as a great kiss starts before our lips ever meet.

After an awkward first date, its easy to go on a second date giving him the benefit of the doubt, but surviving an awkward kiss is much harder.  The kiss is where our chemistry is solidified, where friends become possible lovers, fantasies become a reality, or in worst cases, where a date-hopeful becomes just a friend.  That kiss is more than two lips locking together, its the moment where many women decide on the fate of the relationship.  Unlike an awkward conversation, that kiss is what I might be fantasizing about when I’m getting ready for a date.  Instead, when the butterflies in my stomach is replaced by feelings of apprehension rather than anticipation, the 2nd date is already tainted before it begins. So what do you do? If you are at the doorstep and dropping her off, what is the rule of thumb?

Go For It

An awkward first kiss is better than nothing. If you’re seeing a lot of potential on your date, then make sure you plant a kiss or even a peck before the night ends. A lot of women confess that if their date doesn’t at least kiss them good night, they’d go home wondering whether or not the guy is interested. So, if you’ve enjoyed the night, then give them a goodnight kiss to let her know about your intention.

Never Ask for Permission

A first kiss should always be spontaneous. So asking a girl whether or not you can kiss her will surely make for an awkward first kiss. Women also think this is an overly polite gesture that will lead to nothing but induce more anxiety into both parties. Think of the first kiss like bungee-jumping. The more time you spend talking about it, the more nervous you’ll feel.

Perfect Timing

Although there is really no clear rule about when to kiss a girl, it’s usually better to make the first kiss right before you say good night. In this way, you won’t have to look forward to thinking about conversing casually after kissing. Conversation will always be more awkward after the first kiss, so the perfect time will always be towards the end of the date. You’ll know when the perfect moment is, so just go with the flow.

A first kiss tells a lot about the person. Usually, you can tell what the person is like by kissing them. This sets the stage on what your relationship will be like. Of course, a disastrous first kiss doesn’t have to spell doom to the relationship. A lot of couples have said that their first kisses could be improved but they’re still together. So don’t be pressured about making the first kiss unforgettable. Sure we'd like to dream that it will be, but if it isn't and there is chemistry, remember...."practice makes perfect!"  If the relationship is bound to work, then it will work, no matter the quality of the first kiss. It will be one that is a lifetime memory.

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He Can't Love You...."Like I love You"

Back in the day, The Michael Stanley Band outside of Cleveland Ohio sang a song about love....and with most jingles, they have a tendency to really stick in your head. Often, certain things (stories, songs, memories) have a way of taking you back to your past......the song is about love. He wants to captivate your heart and be your man. It's called; "He Can't Love You"....."like I love you!" Ok, hot shot, so here's your chance.....how do you show a woman that you are the one and that you are all that she needs? She must believe that she will be happiest ever if she loves you. You need to get in shape both mentally and physically.You are fit and trim; you are brimming with lucky projects and comic arcana; you are light-hearted, and  set on bringing her pleasure — of course with all of your fine qualities,she will want to be yours! Still, some men have trouble with the very first words. Deep breath, inhale, exhale....and speak from your heart, not  from your wallet or from your pants. Make eye contact with her, and smile, and then: say hello! Simple, sweet and universal. 

Rule #1 Flirt.....Flirting....goes without saying it is like drinking,cooking and sex — is a pastime that is fun, yet seldom grows tiresome, even after years. We flirt to be silly or to try to get someones attention that we are interested in. Flirting raises our esteem as well as our ego, but in a fun way!

 Its four constituent components are humor, compliments, teasing, and empathy. We'll talk about these briefly....... First we must discuss the seductive conversation by "listening." I love a man who listens to what I say....not who pretends to listen, but who actually listens....How low have we set this standard in the national intellectual life, and how low are our personal standards for sexual gratification, that the capacity to “listen” ranked considered sexy?

Gentlemen,.... If you want to keep a woman around as a lover for more than a day or two, you will want to befriend her; Do you know what friendship involves? Be her friend and listen to what comes from her lips and from her body gestures (these for future reference.)......You can bet your right nut that she'll be testing you,..... so ask her questions, lots of them....about her childhood, her family and friends. She wants to see if you are showing or lacking compassion skills. If you are lacking, better get your ass armor on because yours is about to get kicked to the curb!

Rule #2 Humor.....This is a MUST HAVE.....You do not need to be hilarious to create the right mood — make surprising remarks that one might not expect to hear in a joking sort of way. This usually is enough to raise a smile. And a smile is what you need. Just be lighthearted, she'll enjoy getting to know the silly you.
Rule #3 Compliments ......You should never be short for compliments! Give her lots of them,...but know when enough is enough. No woman likes a man with over-kill.
Rule #4 Teasing .....As long as it does not upset her, you should tease her, and tease yourself, it's good to laugh and this determines your soon to be boundaries.
Rule #5 Empathy...If I have to tell you how to show empathy and compassion, you don't need my advice, you need some serous counseling. She will remember the little things that you did, and she'll remember that you were there for her during these difficult time.

From the moment you meet, your actions should reflect your masculinity and your tenderness. That way, from the get-go she associates you with sensual pleasure as well as true happiness! Love is in the air, and your possibilities are endless......this is her fairy tale, ......if you wish to put the bibbity back in her bobbity boo....Don't wait Prince...take this golden opportunity to win not only her affection, but her heart as well!

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