The Ice Breakers Men Use on Women...Do They Work?

It’s never a really good idea to walk up to a woman and say, “Do you believe in love at first sight or should I want by you again?"...or,...."Are you tired...because you’ve been running through my mind all day".......or how about this cheesy one liner...."Are you a parking ticket because you have FINE written all over you!" OK fellas, STOP...openers like that are sure to make your intended target run real fast in the opposite direction, not to mention they'll think that you are a loser at best, so for goodness sakes, THINK before you open the yap!

If these cheesy lines do not work, which I can tell you right now, 98% of the time, THEY WON'T...what does work? What do you say as your opening line, and how can you say it so that you don’t come off as a total idiot? First, don’t pre-plan your icebreakers...if you do, you're bound to screw up totally! They’ll sound forced and your potential date will not be impressed whatsoever. Do stay away from anything cheesy and even the over-used, “Don’t I know you from somewhere?” There are better ways to break the ice and get a conversation started. Think about what you are going to say, and make it good,...for you know that famous saying..."Sometimes you only get ONE CHANCE!" 

Give a sincere compliment

It's no secret that women enjoy compliments. However, they can always detect when the compliment is an insincere one. No matter the situation, you should always be able to find something unique and legitimate to flatter your target with. It may be risque or a more tame form of praise, depending on her body language toward you. This is KEY, so pay attention! Be sure to follow through with a negative hit, so that she doesn't believe you're in awe over her.

Introduce yourself

This almost goes without saying: If there's been no previous flirting, she's not going to know you exist until you make her aware you're there, so step it up a notch and make it happen fellas! To use a golf analogy: It's always the approach shot that sets up the hole, and it's no different with the ladies. Stride up to her casually and introduce yourself.

What to say:
"I'm Joe, happy to meet you." ...(or)....
"Hi there, I'm Joe. I don't believe we've been introduced."

Buy her a drink

Whether you're at a bar, restaurant or coffee shop, a great icebreaker involves the classic buying of the drink. Have the waiter send her another round of what she's already having (if you want to be more aggressive, you could send her your favorite drink) accompanied by a playful note, with your phone number included. Be sure to have the waiter let her know the source of the drink. On your way out, stop by her table and introduce yourself. It's a bold approach without being invasive. 


 Be blunt!

Here's an icebreaker for those willing to be even more direct. In many cases, walking up to a woman and letting her know you're a take-charge kind of guy can be really appealing, and even a turn-on. She'll likely take your confidence as an indication that you're someone worth talking to. You know....it all starts with small talk.

Make her smile

That's right, women LOVE their egos stroked just like guys though, although, we tend to show it a bit differently. Getting her to smile works magic for breaking the ice; women love a man who can make them laugh. Cracking a joke could prove the difference between picking up and striking out. Humor sets up a pleasant context and hints that you're a fun guy.

You’ll get far more points for noticing that she has a nice smile than if you try to come off as some sort of misguided Don Juan sort of mush/slang that will make her want to puke. Pick up lines and cheesy icebreakers seldom work. If you need to practice and think of possible lines in order to be prepared for any chance that might present itself, that’s fine, but you have to remain flexible and relaxed so that you don’t sound like you were just waiting to use that line on the first girl that happened to come along. Try this....just be yourself. Don't act all nutty, be you. That's what will really catch her eye. Make good conversation with her and leave her with a gesture that is sure to make her think about you long after you say good-night!

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Romancing a Woman

In my opinion, romance is one of the most important things that separates a good relationship from the greatest relationship. It's something that all women love and yet so many of us lack it in our lives. If you can learn to incorporate romance into your life, you will be amazed to see how much your relationships will improve, both emotionally and physically. You'll actually be able to move past the stage where you can't seem to do anything right. You won't have to deal with nearly as much whining, nagging, and shoe throwing as you normally would. And the best part is that you'll actually be able to rediscover the woman who captivated. That's right. Your life is about to change for the better. Here's some dating etiquette advice about romance.

Romance is a nebulous thing with the curious property of being describable but not definable. We won't muck with your head and try to suggest there's an ultimate definitive definition out there. Some people will try to do just that and come up with some tidy little definition, like, "Romance is showing you care." Sure, it sounds good at first, but although draping your coat over a puddle and asking if she remembered to brush her teeth that morning may be actions triggered by this same motivation, they rate distinctly differently on the romance scale.

Although it's not so much a definition, as it is no more precise than the word "romance" itself, one way to describe romance succinctly is "what women want out of a relationship." In other words, men aren't romantic, and if you're a man, that's why you need this guide. If you're a woman, of course, you were born with an innate knowledge of this stuff and need not read further.
But though romance may not be definable, there are still some hard fast rules.

Red is romantic, because red is the color of love and passion. Consider roses.
Romance is personal. To be romantic, you must be personal and do personal kind of things. It's sort of romantic to buy a mooshy greeting card for your loved one, but to be really romantic, you should sign it. As far as birthday presents and so forth go, you can make the gift personal by carefully considering your beloved's interests and choosing a gift uniquely suited to her personality. Flowers always works. Red roses mean, "I love you." If you like her but you don't love her, or you are unsure of it, don't give her red roses, my suggestion is a variety of colors. All yellow says you just want to be friends. White is fresh and new, a bit innocent.
You know that you wish to hold your relationship with your mate special and romance is the complete way to do that. Romance packs heat and love alive in any relationship, but just like most good matters romance comes with a few rules in order to make it work!

Romance can be planned or intuitive and both are perfectly great. Instinctive romance is almost always wonderful because both you and your mate are often viewed up in the moment and you are both sharing an intimate experience together. It is often when you plan romance that slips can be made if you aren't sensible of the principles of romance. Need something intimate for those romancing evenings? www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com. We have everything you're looking for at our online boutique and we're open 24/7. Take a peek at our selections, we know you'll find a variety of pieces or even adult novelties that you'll like. Spice up the romance... Everything in your life should be an outpouring from your relationship.
  

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Relationships or Rejections?

Let me ask you a question...How into someone do you have to be to realize that it is or isn't the right fit? More importantly...How into this person are you to know that they are one of a kind and that no matter how long you look, she/he is what you have not only searched for most of your life but desire all the more? Do you think of them when you aren't with them? Do you go to sleep thinking of this person and wake yup doing the same? What if you are feeling all of these incredible things and you find out that.....they don't feel the same? How can you determine if this is going to be a solid relationship or a bad rejection? You don't...not always. Sometimes life turns out wonderful and you build a relationship with this wonderful person, and other times you are devastated as you meet rejection face to face.


Most people won't get it, or you...in fact your family and friends might even think you're nuts for having these feelings. So what do you do when someone you have your eye on or you love rejects you? Do you feel sad and think that your life is over? Or do you brush off what has happened and just move on in your life? Ponder this question and the answer you come up with could be a major key in how you handle relationship rejection.


Major causes of relationship rejection
• They might not be interested in you
• They might not be interested in a relationship now
• They might be interested in someone else
• Perhaps they don't like your personality and life style
Dealing with relationship rejection is not at all easy, and unfortunately, it can hurt others besides yourself especially if there is a child or children involved in the equation, so what is  the easy way to express feelings and to learn from this?


If your goal is to learn how to deal with relationship rejection and find someone to love, then follow the guide below:


1. Change your focus
I can guarantee if you don't change your focus from the simple point of convergence  on the rejection to something else more uplifting, dealing with rejection will stay difficult for you, and this is NOT something you want following around you forever. Why? Are you serious? Because it is not healthy and it is not the way to make your next possible relationship work. When you meet a man/woman and you begin thinking of them all the time, for no reason or for every reason, you need to dwell on this; If you care for them, make certain that you are over your previous love, 1) it's not fair to them, and 2) it's not fair or healthy at all for you. You both deserve better. I'm not saying that a few weeks from now or a month from now you won't feel the same way about this person, but at least you'll have had time to sit back, gather your thoughts, ponder your options, and plan your move to win his/her heart.


There are many different methods that will help you change your focus like meditation, visualization, remembering a positive experience from your past, smiling, and laughing. At first focusing can be difficult especially if you have been just rejected, but with constant practice on shifting your focus, it will get easier and becomes a positive habit in your life.


2. Create a  positive spin;
Add a new twist to this mixture by assigning a positive purpose to the situation. This is one of the best ways to deal with relationship rejections from the past. Once someone rejects you; simply say to yourself that what has happened is for the best because you are meant to find someone else who is better in all ways, who deserves you and to be loved by you whole heartedly and so completely.
People who deal with relationship rejection skillfully are masters at assigning a positive purpose to situations and events. Their self esteem is high and believe they are worth of the best, nothing less.

Here are some positive purposes you can assign when you get rejected:

• It is her/his loss for rejecting me
• The fact that I got rejected means someone better is on the way, and I will welcome this person.
• This rejection is meant to teach me something so I'm going to look for the lesson and learn from it.
• The list is endless so feel free to add more to the list...believe me, you will.
The key is for the purpose to be positive and uplifting. Don't beat yourself up, focus on this new person and see him.her as a future potential. Don't be afraid to tell them that you care, otherwise, they may move on to someone else and become involved if you don't speak up. You know that old saying listen to your gut, but follow your heart. Emotions are hard to fight, nonetheless, make sure that you are really ready so that no one gets hurt in the future!


3. Take responsibility
Take responsibility for your thoughts and emotions and stop playing the victim. Often when people get rejected in a relationship, they start thinking there is something wrong with them. Statements such as "Why didn't she or he like me? There is something wrong with me, otherwise she/he would've liked me" are very common.

Playing the victim doesn't serve you any good and it makes it very difficult for you to deal with relationship rejection. The sooner you say to yourself that your happiness is what matters and you will not let anyone's rejection upset you, the better it will be for you.


4. Stop seeking approval!
Listen, you don't need me, or someone telling you who you should be with,...right? Creating a happier you creates confidence, and a more attractive YOU! Sooo...giddy up. Go find that right person...or if you already have, figure out how to keep her/him and make it work. You don't need anyones approval for your happiness. YOU decide who who want to be with and only you know what kind of person is truly the "one" that will keep you smiling for years and years to come. Make sure that there is a deep connection, and that this person is quite genuine. There are a lot of ways to find this out. Pay attention to what other people say about this person, watch their lifestyle and how they interact with others, observe their family, friends, and do what I do, Google them. You can find things out about a person by what others think via comments on a FB page, a blog or read press relseases or bios on them.


Remember, we are all on a path, and the big guy upstairs has a plan for us. It might not be with the person you originally desired, however, maybe the vision was to be that this particular person was not the intended one for you after all? Maybe you just really need someone that loves you for you, and someone who can and will save you from yourself? I used to wonder why people were taken from me, why I was rejected, and then I realized that it wasn't my turn to love whole heartedly just yet,..and I am now. My grandmother was my best friend and she used to always tell me that I would find love when I least expected it, and not to look for it. I stopped looking a while ago. If it is meant to be, it will be. You should feel this way as well. Love will find you. It is possible, and stranger things have happened. After all, it is about loving one another.

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10 Reasons why Women stay with the "Wrong" Guy.....

Have you ever felt so good only to have someone make you feel so bad? Relationships are not easy, but when you find the right one and the pieces fit like a puzzle, the world is right. What happens when the pieces are the wrong fit and nothing seems to come together? It's a nightmare...I've put together a list of reasons why women stay with Mr. Wrong and explain why you should run like the wind and set yourself  free from this ego crazed lunatic before you get sucked into his world.

 1. He says all the right things at the right time. Ohhhh boy...STOP THIS BUS NOW, and GET OFF! Don't say that I didn't warn you. It is hard to think someone is a jerk when they are telling you that you are pretty, you are smart, and that they really, really like you. A smooth talker can make you believe that even your closest friends and family are wrong. They're good...but they are all wrong for you.

2. He does small things that make you think he cares. However, if you start to notice, these small gestures do not really cost him anything. Is he Mr. Cheapo? Perhaps...Hey, I'm not one on material possessions, but we like what we like...pay close attention gals, and watch for the "red flags." Look for the signs, and notice this; is he really putting efforts into small gifts that make you happy or is he doing it to appease you and keep the ground neutral?

3. Ok, so he might be good in bed? Yes, sometimes great sex is all it takes for a man to keep a woman with him even when she knows the man is not right for her. Don't give into this temptation...it's a bad thing and you'll only end up hurting in the end. My grandmother used to say that men are like bus stops, there on at every corner so if you don't like this stop, carry on. It's not just about what they do for you in bed, it's about what they do for you day in and day out that makes your world seem so much better. Sister, fireworks in the bedroom are great, but I'd much rather have a fire in my heart than a sizzlin flame in between the sheets.

4. He is good-looking. We should know better than to judge a book by its cover, but sometimes, it is really nice to be in the arm of a man who turns heads. Who does not want to have the hottest boyfriend around? But there is more to a relationship than looks. Oh sister, you bet your sweet ass there is...don't fall for a man for his looks. I did once, BIG MISTAKE! When you meet the right man, looks will not be the determining factor. He could be tall and bald and geeky to some, but you may see him as a man who is caring and loving and kind.

5. Why do women jump into relationships? Sometimes we don't want to be the only single one in your group of friends. If everyone else is married or seeing someone, you do not want to feel left out or be the third wheel. Guess what? I've been the 3rd wheel for 13 years and my friends and family finally gave up on me finding a man who could not only satisfy me, rather make me feel emotionally happy. Funny, watch, now I'll find the right man...because I am not looking!

6.Your friend set you up on a blind date, and now you feel like you owe it to them to keep dating him...Nahhh, says who? Uck...trust me, I've had some blind dates that were so bad I could write a book on them. Just because a friend tries to do you a favor doesn't mean that you own them anything. If they want to do something fun or nice for you, let tem take you to dinner of to the movies!

7. You are thirty, forty, fifty... (or some other magic age) and feel like it is time to settle down. Do not let age define you, and do not settle for someone just because you feel like you should be married. I pity the fool who falls into this terrible trap. Your life my friend is over if your confidence is at this level...Pick yourself UP by the shoestrings and giddy up! Age may define who you are, but life can't control what you need.

8.You do not think anyone else is interested. What is that all about? Take a good look in the mirror sister...don't like what you see? Then fix it! It's much easier to fix yourself than to stay with someone who is going to bring you down and treat you poorly. Again, this is a very bad excuse for staying with someone. Do not let yourself fall for someone just because you do not think there is someone better out there...Let me tell ya something...you need to take a vacation to some tropical island where there are cabana boys and hotties running around with barely anything on and then come home and tell me that there is no one out there! Girlfriend....please...Do not SETTLE! If you stay in a relationship for this reason, you are shooting yourself in the foot!

9.Why do some women think that being with someone who is not quite right is better than being alone? Were you raised on Mars for goodness sake, or DID YOU fall off the turnip truck for real and smack your nugget on the pavement?  Do not let yourself think this - you deserve to be with someone who makes you completely happy. Someone that likes the same things that you do, who is attentive to your needs, and someone who brings you up, up, up.... not down down down!

10. He is not right, but I can change him! Oh, sweetie pie if I had a dollar for every time I said this about my ex husband I wouldn't have needed alimony or all of  his 401K, I would have been a self-made millionaire! Let me tell you a little story....You really cannot change him even if you tried. Don't waste the time, the effort, and don't lose sleep thinking you can make him a better man...If he is wrong for you, he is wrong for you. No if's and's or but's about it! Move on before you find yourself so far into the relationship that your heart will be broken when he finally dumps you for the next new skirt he comes across who is probably much younger and more fun!

Sure she's more fun, she didn't have to take your crap for 15 years,  raise your kids, cook your meals, cut your grass, take out your trash, snowblow the driveway, wash your dirty laundry, put up with smelly farts, your bad belching, and your gross other habits that I won't mention. She hasn't seen him at his peak, and she will look good to him because he's nothing more than a man who used the wrong head.

I truly believe in karma, and what goes around comes around. It might not happen today, or tomorrow, but some day when you are least expecting it, life might just turn on him...and when it does, you'll have moved on with your life, and will look at him as a sad, pathetic, and a lonely man who had life by the balls then threw it away for a tighter ass, nicer boobs, and a better salary.

My grand mother also used to say, "They always think that the grass is greener on the other side Michele, but eventually, that grass too will need mowed!" Powerful words from a powerful woman, my best friend. Those were words that I really never stopped thinking about, and today, even though she's passed on, I can hear her voice telling me "Don't settle!"

 Tell me, all of you married women that are reading this right now that men don't do this? If you were married to one like I was and they left a bad taste in your mouth, doesn't it feel good now to see him suffer just a little? I realized how much more I deserved when I packed my bags and boarded a plane for Paris and had not a care in the world other than to spend holiday with my two young adult children that he turned his back on...and for what? A younger chicky who wanted a family, two strollers, diaper bags, bottles and screaming toddlers. Now then, let me ask you? Whose life do you think turned out better? The point that I am trying to make is that I chose NOT to SETTLE. I walked away, left the material crap and $$ behind and decided that I was going to make it on my own, and on my terms, and in my own time. Confidence...every woman needs to have it. It's not something you cannot buy at the corner store, it comes from within. Dig deep ladies, because once you find it and you wear it on your sleeve like I do, you are untouchable to those men who are pond suckers and your world will open up to those men who see you for the real woman who you are in all of your glory as well as inner beauty!


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What do Women Want,...Really?

1. Intimacy, and LOTS of it!
Woman and men are different as far as relationships go. Listen up men we are not that hard to figure out. The main thing women want from men is time. You need to make us a priority in your life. This is number one on the list also intimacy. If you get too busy and forget us we get resent full and argumentative at times. We are simple. It does not take allot of money to spend time with us. We like attention and affection. A kiss goodbye, a phone call just to see how are day is going. We want to feel important in your life. Basically communication. We do love to be adored!!! You don't have to lavish us with expensive gifts but once in a while is nice!

2. Love...this goes clearly without saying.
Most importantly we just want to be loved. We want to feel loved by you, is that so much to ask? The actions and words have to match up. If they don't we will question it. We do not want to guess or play mind games. If you show it we will return it. We want the man to chase us and pursue us. We know its modern times but we want you to be the aggressor. We love it. We want to be swept off our feet. The more romantic the better. If your not the romantic type become the romantic type! It's real simple boys. You can get to our hearts through our emotions. If you want us to know, show it. If not, please, don't waste our time.

3. SEX...Yum!
The next is sex. We like to be loved and feel a certain closeness with our partner. Don't be shy in this area. We really do want to know what you want and feel. Most important we want you to know as well. We do not want a wham bam thank you mam!! A 10 min quickie is not what we want at all. We want foreplay, and lots of it. Well, wait a minute, that depends on which woman you ask, because quite frankly, I can take it or leave it...most women that I know of want a lot of it, personally, I like a little, but don't want to be teased all night. I get bored quite easily. If your a bad lover we won't tell you, we will just fake it. You will know because we will just roll over and pretend to be tired. We definitely want to be pleased and have an orgasm(s). We love to be kissed passionately. Especially on the neck and other places, you get the picture. After love making we love to talk and be held close. This is a must!!! I guess that the bottom line is really quite simple; we want to feel like we matter in your life! We want to be asked for our opinion. We want to be an equal. A compliment goes a long ways.

4. Support...crucial to a relationship!
What do I mean by support? We want a man to hold his own. We want his love and support. If we have something special to tell you, we want you to listen and encourage us. We also want to lean on you when we are down and out. Cheer us up! Tell us something funny so we can laugh, but always know that we are there to listen no matter what. It's a two way street, you can't have it just one certain way...share your issues, problems and communicate. It is key.

5. Truth...how 'bout it?
We just want our man to be honest with us. If your late, tell us why. Oh hey trust me... there is no reason to lie about it. We have women's intuition. I prefer to call it my radar. Lie boys and your ass is grass. Just be straight up with us, we aren't so fragile that we'll break. Besides we'd prefer hearing the truth from your lips directly and not in some round about way at a bar, or club or at the office. So not cool...

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Define Love...

Often times, I ask myself, and I am not the only one. We define crush, puppy love, infatuation, or in reality, is it really true love? We fall in and out of love as often as we change our underwear. Do not get me wrong. Many believe that one goes through many different lovers before you find your soulmate. What is a soulmate? Will you know who your soulmate is? There is a mothers love. A childs love. Gods love. Those are all unconditional love.

Romeo and Juliet sacrificed their life for love so that they could be together forever. We watch romantic movies and listened to love ballads to get an understanding what you must do to find love.At times we work to hard with the wrong person to find that we have it a dead end and often times get frustrated but we brush ourselves off and get back on the rollercoaster of love!

We find enjoyment and the love for shopping and fall in love with a pair of shoes or a handbag that is right for us. My love is lingerie because it is always there and it is always the right piece for me. We are selective on what we love for us but we should be selective on the type of people who choose to be in our lives. Diamonds are a girls best friend. Wear it like there is no tomorrow. We deserve to be happy, right? Love like there is no tomorrow. Who knows?...There may be a surprise maybe waiting for you around the corner.


 Hugs and kisses girls!

Tantalizing Tina

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