4 Steps to Finding L-O-V-E on the Internet

 Dating-let's talk about it, shall we?
Are you new and back on the dating market? If so, you better sit down, because a lot sure has changed. I married my high school sweetheart and was married for over 15 years. Then one day the bottom fell out. I raised my children and did not think much about dating as I put their needs ahead of mine and did what I thought was the right thing to do. I waited until it was 'my' time. So where does one begin to find a new mate/partner/lover/spouse? Dating is nothing new.  It has been around for as long as anyone can remember.  Ask your parents and your grandparents and they will tell you the same thing.  The principles remain the same, only the particular situations and perhaps the “methods” have changed.

Did you know that there are now over 1400 sites to find your mate? There sure are, but which one is the right one for you? With the number of new sites on the market every month you have to ask yourself which one will be best for me?

Online dating opens up so many possibilities for anyone.  If you rely on the “traditional” way of meeting people, you are limited by geography.  On the other hand,online dating offers you the possibility of meeting a person halfway across the world – who just might be the person you have been looking for. Of course, just because you engage in online dating doesn’t mean that everything will be perfect for you.  In fact, you still have to maintain the common sense that you need even for traditional dating. 

 More so, you might want to exercise a bit of caution (emotional and physical alike) in online dating.  are dating sites like Match.com and PlentyofFish.com and relationship- or marriage-oriented sites like eHarmony.com, Chemistry.com and PerfectMatch.com.You’ll also find niche sites for Jews (JDate.com), Christians (ChristianCafe.com), African Americans (BlackPeopleMeet.com), Indians (Shaadi.com), nerds (GeektoGeek.com), pet lovers (DateMyPet.com) and single parents (SingleParentMeet.com). Are you looking for a sugar daddy? (Sugardaddyforme.com) is a great site to find the perfect friendship with benefits/perks so to speak, as well as (SeekingArrangement.com) if you are just looking for a certain financial 'arrangement' so to speak. 

Might I add my 2 cents?
Do be careful of the site(s) you choose;
It’s worth it to shell out for a membership! (Monthly fees range from $20-$60.) Although free sites are attractive in this down economy, having to pay for the service offers accountability. 

1) Take the compatibility test.
Choose at least one site with a compatibility test. They’re “a wonderful little filter” to weed out men looking for casual encounters, or an affair. Remember that not all men are going to be truthful on the site but oh women can be deceitful just the same, so be careful and proceed with caution. Do remember that most people on dating sites are there because they want to find their match/mate and this is the way to go about it in today's era. hey, be truthful. You want a partner to like the qualities that you actually portrait not the ones that you check off on a test hoping he'll like them...be yourself.

2) Pick an appropriate screen name. Oh yeah sure, the name; HotMama69 might find you Mr. Right for tonight, but not necessarily the future father of your children. Are you looking for a one night stand or are you here for serious business? Remember ladies that your screen name is their  first impression of you, so make it something catchy or with meaning behind it. Make it something catchy and that will stand out in his mind. 

 3) Stand out.The biggest problem with most online profiles? They’re too bland. You need to do something to really stand out amongst the hundreds or thousands of others floating around the cyber space of dating.
Don’t be afraid that details will put off potential dates. That’s exactly what you want your profile to do.
As a matter of fact; Your online dating profile should repel about 95% of the people who read it...oh but for the people who could be a good match, you want them to know it was written just for them.

4)Post pictures.Guys are visually oriented, so you need pictures to get their attention. In fact, many men look only at the pictures, skipping profiles entirely. For goodness sakes, pleaseeee post recent photos! No one wants a surprise on their first meeting to see someone walk in bald when the photo you saw was with a head of hair (fellas)...or you don't want to meet someone 50 pounds heavier than the photo you saw (ladies.) No, no no! Be honest and be yourself. You want someone to love you for YOU! Not for what you portrait yourself to be....

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Online Dating Profiles...Be Truthful and Keep it Simple!

When you think of going to an online dating site, what comes to mind first? You want to meet the man or woman of your dreams and possibly build a relationship together, right? You hear so much about being careful, and discrete but you want to impress a certain someone and you really want your profile to stand ot amongst all the others. One word of advice, and I am no professional, but I have experience...

While you might take some care to conceal your identity, and hey, that's all right....however, it's best not to lie. Do not try to bluff your way through a relationship because at some point the whole thing might come out and as we all know, one lie leads to another and then before you know it the whole relationship crashes down and then you ask "What did I do?" If you have to ask that at that point and time, you need to take a good hard look at "YOU!" Be as honest as you can, taking care to conceal your identity. Someone close to me once said that a friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you just the same. So there is no need to hide things about you.

Of course, you do not have to tell the person every ghastly, gory detail about yourself, but at the same time you do not have to conjure up stuff about you that simply is not true.If at all you do paint a very rosy picture about yourself, including things that just are not true, or are such far fetched exaggerations, and the other person does flip for you, in reality you will be basking in another person’s glory. The picture you have painted is just not you. Eventually this will catch up with you.

Your Alter Ego

When you choose a handle to identify yourself by, you have to be sharp. You don't want to draw a lot of attention to the degree where you are taken in by this profile, you want to be dignified and diligent in finding your special someone. You are not trying to attract as many partners as possible. You are looking for, quality not quantity! Try to attract only the kind of people you are interested in and who would find you interesting. Might I suggest you use a style that better defines the kind of person you are. Do not try to sound like a sex god or a sex goddess. If you are, let the other person decide for himself or herself. Instead of that you could try something that gives someone an immediate idea about the kind of person you are. The point is to win over people who are interested in the same things that you are. That, of course, increases your chances of meshing well with the person.

Keep it Simple....

Another crucial thing about writing your profile is that you should keep it as brief as possible. No one wants to real a novel. Who has time for that? Nobody, and that means nobody, wants to read through lines and lines of another person’s profile where it goes on, and on and on. If you make it so long winded the person who is reading it will get the idea that you are the kind of person who would love to keep on talking about yourself and instead of go on a date with you, the reader would rather go to the next profile...

But that doesn’t mean that you have to limit the whole thing to just a few words. A very brief profile will sound as if you do not have time for all this, but you are just doing it for the heck of it. Make mention of the strengths you can bring to a relationship. Positive things are what we all love to hear. Do not be negative.

The best style that you could use would be to be 100% natural. Write your profile as you would describe yourself to a person directly, no BS, no lies, just be you. Honesty and integrity are what most people seek. The conversation style has the widest appeal. Make it simple and stay away from big words and hackneyed expressions., unless you can back them with true meaning!



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