Seduce her Mind

se·duce

[si-doos, -dyoos]

–verb (used with object), -duced, -duc·ing.

1. to lead astray, as from duty, rectitude, corrupt.

2. to persuade or induce to have sexual intercourse.

3. to lead or draw away, as from principles, faith, or allegiance:

 In order to find a women of rare qualities these days, it's not easy! A guy needs all the right moves, and intelligence to boot! He needs to seduce her body, mind and soul. He needs to be one step ahead of his competition because woman are not naive and you have to get up pretty early to even think that you're going to pull one over on us! We all agree that a man shouldn't put on an act because it's obvious; he should be himself, as long as his character has the following traits: Ladies, here's what you need to look for; If you find the right man with all the sex appeal, and all the bells and whistles they'll be as the Spinners sang in the song, Rubberband Man ...."Guaranteed to blow your mind......So high you won’t come down!"


Confidence - This speaks for itself. Rule #1: Guys you should always be confident! If a man is confident in who he is, it displays his strengths.

Attitude - Guys, just remember, women aren't DESPERATELY searching for a date or relationship, so be quaint without all the BS! Women respond much quicker to a man who shows kindness, not a man who thinks he's "all that" and God's gift to women!

Smooth Talkers - So you are a master with the art of conversation? You can speak well with anyone--male or female. You can smoothly change subjects and make a conversation flow without it seeming like the you're asking the woman a ton of random questions. You can keep anyone interested, and as far as yourself, that's only because you make it a point not to reveal too much. You are a big challenge for her. I have a name for you....how about Rico Suave? I'm on to you, and if you're not careful, she will be too! Is this all really necessary?

Spontaneous - Women love a man who is spontanious! We fly by the seat of our pants sometimes so why shouldn't you do it guys? Get a little wild and crazy...and you might just see the naughty girl come out a little. You might just be her fantasy?

Most men are not ashamed of their desires - Alluring and buff, and a six pack like no other....men take pride in searching for the right woman with all the qualities they desire. If they're attracted to a woman, they don't try to hide it. If they're making eye contact with you ladies, they won't look away if they see that you've notice them, in fact, it becomes a dead on lock down stare.....You maintain eye contact to show that you're both confident and not intimidated by one another. Combined if these two keep this fire burning it's going to get a little hot in here, and things might just get a little steamy! Hang on to your towel boys!

Out of the Closet.....

"Fasion faux pas". .....We all hate to admit it, because we truthfully feel that clothes shouldn’t matter as much as then do...In a perfect world, a person would be judged at their workplace based solely on the caliber of their work and work ethic. Gone are those days. How you choose to dress each morning reflects how you feel about your job, and it makes a rather bold statement of whether or not you take your position seriously or not. You have a reputation to uphold. People look up to you for heaven sakes....You are supposed to be like the "Fashionista!" I was reading an article and ran across this list. I wanted to share it with you. I couldn't keep my comments to myself, someone has to say something!

Your appearance does matter! You can't dress like your part of the circus, or people will think that you are part of the circus! So stop clowning around!We’ve all been there.... the days you wake up feeling like crap, but still have to try to make it into the office, so you throw on any old thing that’s half way decent and clean and maybe somewhat wrinkle free. You journey in to the office where you never see anyone. The jobs you partake is one that you work from home..... in your pajamas and no makeup 90% of the time....and generally, it consists of slippers and pop tarts for breakfast, not tea and crumpets. With this in mind, there are certain things that scream a big no no and regardless of the profession you simply should NOT WEAR!!!

We'll tell you what they are and beg you to bring it "out of the closet" and put it into the trash!
Our Top 10 Fashion No-No's

1) Crocs Who on earth invented these? A neanderthal man? Look at them for goodness sake...They are too big, and squarish and I am at a loss for words.....Were they meant for the beach, or for small children and then they got carried away and just kept making them bigger and bigger? Or are they for working in the garage or around the house. The company that made them stated that they were“intended as a boating/outdoor shoe.” Yeah that's right to wear below the surface to scare the heck out of the poor fish!  Face it, Crocs are not for the office, or the mall, or anywhere in my opinion.

2) Uggs beautiful as they are and so comforting.....truth be told, they are just glorified slippers. And what are slippers? They are part of your pajamas. Have you ever seen professionals wear pajamas to the office? No! I don't care how cold it is outside, or how sick or hungover you feel, don’t come traipsing into the office wearing Uggs and looking like hell. Even worse, try living in Texas where it's 100 degrees and women wear them with shorts year round! Let's not worry that it's 100 degrees and these gals are wearing insulated boots no less...they look hideous!

3)The Fanny Pack (sorry, I'm laughing out loud with this one....)hey, it went out of style way back in the 80s, and it took side ponytails and neon brights along with them. Sporting a fanny pack in a professional environment shows you have no idea what is going on in the fashion world....

4) Scrunchies Yup, you heard me,...seriously? These went out of fashion at the same time fanny pack did. When I moved to Texas, my daughter warned me of a city "not to live it whatsoever" because she said everyone there still wore these. that was all I needed to hear.Trust me.....wearing one only emphasizes your need for a makeover, a SUPER BIG make over! No time to waste.....hurry!!! (The only exception for scrunchies would be possibly for cheerleaders, and even then, that'd be stretching it.)
5) Jewelry- We like it when people make an effort with jewelry, clinking bracelets can be a little on the distracting side, irritating and not to mention loud. NO BIG BLING at the OFFICE!

6)Leggings and spandex pants are perfect for your next yoga or Pilates class, certainly not for your upcoming presentation - I wouldn't even wear them for a conference call. If you think these are form fitting and cool, we've got much bigger problems!

7)Leather pants are perfectly career-appropriate if you’re auditioning for Rock of Love, and your name is Joan Jett....that’s about it! It should go without saying (but I'll still say it) that you should never go to work dressed like you’re about to do some tequila shots with the band unless your job somehow involves doing tequila shots with the band!

8)Velore -Juicy Tracksuits They may seem like they’re fancy ladies, but a big price tag does not make a sophisticated garment more appealing. Velour, sadly, is just not a workplace-approved fabric. If you work at a gym, perhaps. Don't you agree that it's just scream out “look at my ass?" ....and with that in mind you'd better hope that you don't have a big ass or someone's going to scream out "Why Why Why???" .... Please stop, your killing me here....you don't need the fashion police, you need your brain entirely reprogrammed because something in your nugget just isn't working properly! Oh.....one more thing...this goes double for bedazzled tracksuits.

9) Sequins- Yes, there is a right way and a wrong way to wear sequins. As a small adornment on a solid-colored blouse with clean lines (i.e. not much else going on), sequins can be an appropriate accessory, I suppose.... But much more than that can lead you to straight into fashion victim territory. Wearing sequins can make you feel like a star – but overdoing it at the office can make you look cheap, out of touch with reality and, at worst, unprofessional...are you going to pull out the rhinestones and glitter too?

10)Animal print- Good Lord....this almost always comes back in style, so purchasing a leopard or zebra print piece isn’t a terrible idea. However, it’s when you overdo this trend and try to wear it from head to toe and it makes you look like a leopard or a zebra, that's when the horror begins. If you keep it simple, your office will think you’re edgy — which is what you want, nothing over the edge.. but take it over the top, and they’ll think you were up to something a little bit shady last night and working a second job doing something of illegal activity that ones pimp would dress her in.

Time to get off the fashion Merry-Go-Round and do a reality check in your closet....If it screams out any of the above mentioned, ....if you make peoples heads spin so much that they can't even look at your outfit because you're making them dizzy...
Get off , and put this ride of of it's misery!

Hot Flash or Power Surge?

WHAT IS A HOT FLASH? Honestly, just when you think you have mastered the hurdles of being a woman, something new creeps in and pulls the rug out from under you. I was awakened one night to a mad rush of sweat and it felt as if I had just run a half marathon. There was no one lying next to me, or on top of me, so it wasn't a sexual encounter I had experienced either. What was this and why was it happening to me?

Hot flashes can begin early in menopause and are most common during the first few years after menopause begins. When I think of menopause, I think of someone (back in the day) much older than me, like my grandmothers age going through this, not a vibrant, energetic, motivated sassy gal in her mid 40s early 50s. Up to half of all women will experience moderate to severe hot flashes in the first few years of menopause, but some have to endure it far longer, like I have. If you have been experiencing hot flashes for a while now or you’re suddenly finding yourself shedding layers of clothing during an episode, you are not alone. Gone are the days of chewing on ice, now I find myself wearing it to cool off.

I’m not one that has experienced the severe mood swings like some women have reported, nonetheless, I do get edgy. There are times when like any of you who are also experiencing the same things feel the need to find my happy place. I do yoga for a short period of time or even meditate to calm myself and to soothe my nerves. Oh,I do get pissy so look out. When this occurs, my friends and family call me the middle aged hormonal crazy on the loose with an attitude! It wasn't bad enough having to deal with the once a month cycle where our bodies raged, suffered cramps, and were moody…...and now we have to experience this? Take PMS and multiply it by 100.

When my doctor described this to me a few years ago and stated that my body had begun this cycle, I was taken back for a few seconds, paused , starred at her in disbelieve and said as stated by Garry Coleman/Different Strokes….”Whatcha talkin about Willis?” If you are experiencing any of these signs or symptoms that I have just described, consult with a professional. There are things that you can do and meds that you can take to easy this burden that makes you want to literally pull your hair out. If you've never gone through this and you are reading this, and you are a woman you'll know this feeling when you are standing in a checkout line at the grocery store or at the mall and you suddenly feel like your body from your back to your neck are on fire. You get so hot that you may have to quickly exit the store. If its winter, leave the coat at home, this rise in body temperature could fry an eye.

Ladies, I know, this sucks….often I ask why men get off so easy? No menstrual cycles, not pregnancies, no childbirth, and no menopause….what I wouldn’t give to trade places with them just for a while. There are seductive, sensual and erotic ways of feeling passion and heat,…..this is NOT what I had in mind. So take a few minutes to absorb this information and if it sounds like something you may be going through, find a bar, get a tall martini or something strong to your liking and soak it up…
I don't know about you, but if we’re going to suffer hot flashes and my body is going to be heat induced to these extremes,...... I’d much rather endure my power surge with a cocktail and a sexy man!

Green with Envy?

en·vy  (en-ve)

definition    n. pl. en·vies

1.

a. A feeling of discontent and resentment aroused by and in conjunction with desire for the possessions or qualities of another.

b. The object of such feeling:

2. Obsolete Malevolence.

tr.v. en·vied, en·vy·ing, en·vies

1. To feel envy toward.

2. To regard with envy.

DEFINING ENVY

Envy is the desire for another’s traits, status, abilities, station, or worldly goods. It need not be associated with an object; its salient characteristic is the unfavorable comparison of one’s own status with that of another.

We envy people of all categories....some of us want to be a prince or a princess. Some an actor or actress. It's knowing that we are, or that we have something so extraordinary that enlightens us and makes us feel more special. It's like that phrase; "Keeping up with the Jones." People want what others have, and for some it will continue to eat away at them until they find a way to get it. Why, why, why do you even care? Perhaps it ranks us higher in the "status quo" Don't get caught up in this trap!

People can be envious of many things; we can be envious because your coworker got a raise/promotion and we were passed by. Imagine that your best friend is in a healthy relationship and you couldn't find a good man let alone love if your life depended on it.... Think about why all of this is? It's not competition with your siblings, friends, coworkers etc., It's not a rivalry, and you're certainly not going to win the grand prize for beating them to the finish line....
 Does this mean in all fairness that you wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought a new boat, a luxury car or decided to build a new dream house? Being envious isn't the answer, it's immature and it certainly will show a lack of pride and confidence within yourself! If you aren't happy with your own life, change it. I say this over and over throughout my articles,...and there is no easier way to say it. It will only make you feel miserable! I know this feeling all too well. I wasn't an envious woman but I had friends, neighbors, coworkers and even family members who were. I always thought to myself ...."If they put as much time into trying to establish a solid relationship with someone, or worked harder to get that promotion, or clean up their credit to build that dream house, their life would be peachy too!" In the end, and when it's all said and done, "envy" isn't  the factor that's going to matter......be that as it may, the Rolling Stones said it best.....
"You Can't Always Get What You What."....but if you try sometime you just might find....
you get what you need....

Dating Over 40.....Is the Grass Really Greener?

In our day and age, it is so frustrating to listen to people telling you that you are way too picky, expect too much and that you should lower your standards of dating......but the good news is that you don't need to "settle" for Mr. Right Now.Having a considerable amount dating experience under your belt actually gives you the practical skills you'll need when Mr. Right does happen to wonder into your neck of the woods, whether it be a chance meeting at the dry cleaners, the supermarket or on the internet. It also opens your eyes to see what kind of weirdos and super freaks there really are out there!

They say....the more experience you have, the better you will be at weeding out the good men from the pool of men who aren't right for you. I call the bad ones the bottom feeders, better know as a leech, slacker, someone with total lack of responsibility. Women who date frequently know this type and know when to cut their losses and say, "Next!" Savvy women respect that and move on. It's women who don't date a lot who tend to settle for less. No No No gals.....never ever just settle! This should be in a womans hand book somewhere. It's in mine!You know that saying "less is more?" Not such good advice to follow in dating.

What I've learned is that it can be quite difficult enough for women over 40 to date, but it's even more difficult for them to find good dating advice. The first step is for a woman over 40 to make sure to dress her age. For God sakes, don't walk out the door for a date dressed in something that your daughter would wear...sure you may feel intimidated and worry that men are more interested in the younger women....and hey... maybe they are....However, you should not try to dress like them, you'll just end up looking foolish.

One advantage women over 40 have is that they are often more comfortable with their bodies and more in touch with their sensuality than their younger counterparts. They shouldn't be afraid to be sexual and amorous with the right man. There's no need to play dumb to impress a man; the best way to impress him is to show that you're his intellectual equal. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe he wants to date you because he is looking for someone intelligent, with social skills, knowledge of culture, society, politics and wants a woman who can discuss what's on the news...World News,.... not E-News! These younger women are like beautiful cars.....and men....well, they're like boys, they want to take them out for test drives, but they would never consider parking them in their garages. Men may be flamboyant, arrogant, sexy, and alluring, but never stupid! He wants to see that you are all that and a bag of chips!

Like a fine wine, with age comes maturity.This should help to set a womans mind at ease.This has also just set the bar higher for younger women looking to cross the line into our middle aged turf!
 I say.."BACK OFF!" In the end, the "older" woman, with more life experience and wisdom beats out the younger woman who may be lacking maturity and poise. Although it's a bit cliché, it is imperative that you just be yourself! I've never said that the older cannot date and or marry the younger or vica versa...I'm simply stating that the statistics show that most often it just doesn't work out. A woman over 40 should be very proud of the life she's lived, the experiences and insight she's gained, the accomplishments and achievements that she has acquired and the person she's become.

Oh sure, we always think that the grass is greener on the other side...but don't be a schmuck...
 in perspective, eventually that grass needs mowed too!

Doormat or Dragon?

Picture yourself in a boat on a river,with tangerine trees and marmalade skies. Somebody calls you, you answer quite slowly, a girl with kaleidoscope eyes.....cellophane flowers of yellow and green, towering over your head.....look for the girl with the sun in her eyes, .......And she's gone.....Yeah,....That's right, She is  GONE!!!.....Gone are her days of La-La Land...Here's the 4-1-1....She had to go out and find a J.O.B!

Life as she knew it was about to change and her world of newspaper taxis that appeared on the shore,waiting to take her away....... Yup, you guessed it....vamoose!! Life as she knew it....best referenced by Kansas was "Dust in the Wind!" This gal had to wise up and get a reality check....She was so used to someone doing everything for her that she forgot how to do things for herself. Soon, doors were slammed in her face, banks were turning her down for loans, credit cards were being cut in half at check-outs. People laughed and made gestures behind her back,....where was every ones faith in this woman now?

 Oh sure everybody loved her when she was married and had money, nice vacation homes, boats and jet skis, kick ass Christmas gifts..... and parties for everything.....Yes, life was all around good for everyone!...... What did she soon learn? They were all a bunch of free loaders!...She was always so giving of herself that she really didn't care about all the little things that in her eyes that seemed so evasive. Gone was the good life as she knew it. No valet, the only one that was parking the car was her! Now she was clipping coupons and taking her kids out to dinner on the "buy one get one free" deals, going to mid-day matinees, coloring her own hair, doing her own nails, and shopping clearance racks.

Life teaches you a lot of valuable lessons, some good some not so good....Climb in the back with your head in the clouds,.....and well, you know the story.....cut the bad out of your life.....gone~ bye bye, adios, hasta la vista! She started over with very little, and never looked back.Gone are the days where she was every ones doormat. Years have passed.,....and yet she holds on to some of her memories, not all of them were bad,...she took business classes gathered her thoughts and set out to do what people said she couldn't....while most were too busy calling her a dreamer she was becoming a "Do'er!"

 Does this story sound familiar? Were you or someone that you know a gal with her head in the clouds? If so, know this....life is as good as you make it. You can feel sorry for yourself and expect pity, or you can pull up your big girl panties and make your hopes and dreams your reality! Life of the doormat days are history.... Dig down deep and find that optimistic woman that has self-esteem, will squish you like a bug if you cross her, ......Yes, you know- the one who has confidence to walk on nails, and will breathe fire on you if you get in her way....DREAM BIG, and make it happen!!! Moral of the story....a little faith can take you a long way! There are no limitations to what you can do, and there's is no time like the present to change your life, and your life style. I'll keep my head in the clouds.....because it allows me to imagine almost anything.....and my possibilities are endless.......

Are You Superwoman?

Ladies,......Do you often feel like you have to be "superwoman?" Are you struggling with the hustle and bustle of everyday routines? Do you try to make everyone happy all the time? Are you taking time to make "you" happy? It's all about social skills,...the "how to's." Stop trying to wear too many capes all at once...

Social skills are all the things we should say and do (or not say and do) when we interact with other people.  Identify your areas of strengths and areas that could benefit from improvement by using a social skills. Do you feel like you're being pulled in ten different directions? You aren't alone on this one....most of us do at times.Women often don't have the luxury of a singular focus, especially in their assumed role as social coordinator and household manager. Forgive and forget the idea that women should "be it all" and "do it all" for their spouse, family, employer, and delegate! Everyone can help with household tasks in some way,trust me,.... if this doesn't happen....you know how that saying goes..."If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!"


Rule #1 Keep her Happy!!! Women are usually more aware of the social connections of others around them, and therefore more aware of their isolation or failure to live up to the social expectations. This can often lead to loneliness and sometimes even depression. This happens more often than not when you are trying too hard to make everything right. It's no good when you're giving 80% and the partner/spouse/family is only giving 20%. If this is going on, it is definitely time to change the rules!Women are supposed to know more about appropriate social behaviors, right? Says who?We aren't perfect, nor have we claimed to be. Embrace life, take one day at a time, and take a deep breath....

Slow down, you're not in a race to any finish line, and if things don't get done today, do them tomorrow. Gone are the days of thinking that kryptonite is your super power....you've got something far better...you've got confidence!Yes, with a positive attitude you are faster than a speeding bullet, more powerful than a locamotive, and able to leap tall buildings in a single bound. Your mind and your body are your super power and if you use them combined in a conscientious effort, you can be superwoman in the household, at the work place and super sex goddess in the bedroom!

Tantalize him with "Table Talk!"

body language

Definition

Silent (non-verbal) messages communicated through the sender's body movements, facial expressions, voice tone and loudness, etc. In social psychology, all behavior in presence of another person is considered communication. Also called kinesic communications. See also non verbal communication.

Nonverbal communication is a rapidly flowing back-and-forth process. You send one another signals with gestures, sighs, or eye contact. Successful nonverbal communication depends on emotional self-awareness and an understanding of the cues you’re sending, along with the ability to accurately pick up on the cues others are sending you. Ladies, in short, this means "don't hold back." This requires your full concentration and attention. If you're planning what you’re going to say next, daydreaming, or thinking about something else, you are almost certain to miss nonverbal cues and other subtleties in the conversation, and you'll probably blow the opportunity. Relax and go with the flow.....My advice, shoot from the hip. More often than not, the best romantic displays of affection come from moments where we lose our heads and throw the rules right up into the air. I'm all about taking risks. Life is far to short to wonder, "what if?" When you are with someone and you are both feeling a bit romantic, show him/her. Don't wait, there's no time like the present!

 Body language is effective! Not only does it show you have a sense of adventure, it also shows that you can use your imagination. My grandmother used to say that if you could master the art of body language, you could have an entire conversation with someone without having ever had to open your mouth. The eyes have a way of often telling it all. Can you speak with your eyes?  The body has a way of saying "I want you now!" It doesn't matter where you are, if the mood strikes and you want to show them how you feel.....send them a signal. It's contagious, fun, exhilarating, erotic, spontaneous and something he'll be thinking about long afterwards. Why be ordinary when you can be extraordinary?

Doesn't this just give "table talk" a whole new meaning?

You Can Have Your Cake and Eat it Too!

Most women want nothing short of  "their everything" when it comes to a man,.....they want their one in a million. Wouldn't it be nice if we could place an order for a man like we build a burrito at our favorite restaurant? That way you'd get the perfect man fit to your likings.....
Oh if it were only that easy!

While we are waiting for our prince to come along;
 "Who Says you can't have your cake and eat it too?"

 Women today are a lot more bold than they were 20+ years ago and men are liking it a whole lot more! We like to be treated like a princess, but we are ruler of the bedroom and often the dominant one in the relationship. Why is it that people think that you have to only settle for one or the other? Who says you can't have more than one good thing at a time? We get a sweet tooth and  our appetite builds. I recommend keeping your favorite candy bar, yummy ice cream or a dessert in the freezer that you can pull out when you get that craving.....if only we could keep a variety of men in the pantry to choose from when we get that same itch?

Physical attraction and chemistry are key, Yes! You can't make a relationship work based on looks alone. In order to create something solid you need to start with a good foundation. If this is just a "one night stand" there's no need to take this advice, but if its regarding a guy that you met and you think he very well may have some potential, just like pouring the cake batter in the pan evenly, you'll want to take it slow and let the cement in this foundation dry before proceeding! Men don't like feeling rushed through anything, if this happens things get overheated,....otherwise, just like the icing on the cake, he will run!

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