But this is where we have to think very carefully. Clearly, we like the idea of persons of the opposite sex finding us so appealing that they want to become one with us. Wow! What a compliment! But what part of you do they want to become one with—just your body, or your body, mind, and soul? In the larger scheme of things, our bodies are but a small part of the totality of us.
Our minds are thousands of times more complex and unique, and what we call our souls are the deepest parts of us, the parts that are so central to our being that their value to us is beyond words, beyond measurement. Most of us are just beginning to understand our souls a little bit. We have flashes of awareness of how unique our souls are, how they contain all the really precious parts about us, and we literally shudder at the idea of playing fast and loose with this unbelievably masterful part of our identity. We're the only person in the history of the world with the soul we have, and if we gained the whole world, but lost our soul, we would have lost everything.My personal opinion is that you must first love yourself, for if you do, then all else will fall into place.
I feel most importantly, that sex appeal isn't something to labor over. The hard work is done when you build your self-confidence, learn to love others for who they are, and find your purpose in this world. Sex appeal tends to exude as the fruit of your ongoing personal development. So the best advice after all this advice is to not try too hard to have sex appeal. Provided you've learned to love yourself and others well, it'll come naturally, just give it time. Get to know yourself and find out who you are and what it is that you seek? Find within yourself class, style and poise. Read up on current events and social society. That is a portion of sex appeal that most men find erotic and mind boggling...yes, every man wants a woman with intelligence and a sense of humor combined.
