How to Get the Girl...

So you think you are the bomb diggity? Time and time again you ask yourself, how do I get the girl? Often you ponder how much time you have spent trying to attract women to you yet you seem to fall short time and time again... If you have learned anything about women from your endeavors you probably feel like a psychologist in trying to understand them.Newsflash, we women are impossible to figure out. I highly recommend first finding out the type of men that most women opt for. Most women that I know would rather have an honest sweet man with potential to make a relationship grow. Not many women want Mr loud mouth, sassy pants. I found in recent research that the factors which influence seduction are not just how a guy smells or looks. That's right Mr Stud Muffin so please...lay off the cologne.

The study reported that women are aware of the fact that good-looking guys may not be a good choice for a long-term relationship, which is what most women are looking for, deep down. They consider that handsome men are unreliable, more likely to be unfaithful and only good for short-term relationships. In addition, this study reported that given a free choice, the type of man a woman opts for depends on her point in the menstrual cycle. It found that during the period of ovulation, women preferred fit, macho type men (who are likely to make strong, healthy babies) and for the rest of the days, they opted for less macho men who might be thought to make better long term partners. So, if you’re not a macho type of guy, you have a great chance of getting any girl, 75% of the time. However, it is also thought that a woman’s cycle makes her more attractive to men at the time of ovulation. So there is a danger that if you always go for the girls who attract you the most at a subconscious level, you will pick out the girls who are ovulating and are not going to pick you tonight. Instead, you need to be aware of who is looking at you a lot, and choose those girls right now. 

You can boost your ‘score’ immensely by always picking girls who are attracted to you. You just have to take a few simple steps to increase their numbers and, most importantly, have the confidence to believe that in any room, there will be some women who are attracted to you  no matter what you look like. Once you have that confidence and belief, it is just a matter of finding them.Besides, if you want to attract and make women fall for you then you should ooze confidence and appear to be cool  not in the sense of following fashion, but emotionally. Be happy, content to be who you are and where you are right now, be friendly to both men and women, and do not react with anger or sulks to setbacks but accept life as it comes. 

 Now ladies, think for a moment if you will, about the guys you know. Do you know some guys who are like that, always happy, laid back and optimistic? Do they have trouble getting girls? I bet they don’t. So if you are out with a woman or just cruising in a nightclub or at a party, do not show your temper. This will destroy the ‘top guy’ image that you have created for yourself. For this reason it is important not to drink too much when you are ‘hunting’. Sure you can have a drink or two, but don’t get drunk. Keep that for the times when you’re watching the game with the boys. A lot of guys mix up the two and have nights out with the guys where they drink a lot, go to a club and try to pick up girls. That’s a big mistake. Keep your drinking nights separate from your picking up nights.

Attracting and seducing women is not a difficult job at all if you know what you are doing. Everything depends on how you think and what you think. You need to set your unconscious mind so that it follows whatever instructions you give it. Here is where the confidence bug has to really kick into action....When you tell your unconscious mind that you are the type of guy that women go crazy over then you will find that you are filled with confidence and sex appeal. When you do this, you will subconsciously believe that you are a chick magnet and there is nothing that can stop women from being attracted to you. 

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Understanding Body Language in Relationships

I wrote an article on this topic not long ago, but after several comments and emails to me I decided to get a little more to the true detail and traits of real body language. So what it is you exactly? Body language is the meaning behind the words or the “unspoken” language. My grandmother used to say that you can tell what a person is thinking without them ever having to open their mouth. She was such a smart lady. Reading the language of ones body movements, and facial expressions tells the true story. 

Surprisingly, studies show that only up to an estimated 10 percent of our communication is only verbal. Honestly, that percentage doesn't at all surprise me. The majority of the rest of communication is unspoken. This unspoken language isn’t rocket science. However, there are some generalizations or basic interpretations that can be applied to help with the understanding or translating of these unspoken meanings. Here are some basics below.

Smile - People like warm smiles. Think of a heartfelt warm-fussy, maybe your favorite pet, and smile!

Eyes -I say this is the MOST important sign in great communication. If you don’t look someone in the eyes while speaking, this can be interpreted as dishonesty or hiding something. Big red flag! Likewise, shifting eye movement or rapid changing of focus/direction can translate similarly. If more than one person is present in a group, look each person in the eye as you speak, slowly turning to face the next person and acknowledge him or her with eye contact as well. Continue on so that each person has felt your warm, trusting glance. Some suggest beginning with one person and moving clockwise around the group so that no one is missed, and so that you are not darting around, seemingly glaring at people.

Attention Span / Attitude - Other people can tell what type attitude you have by your attention span. If you quickly lose focus of the other person and what is being said, and if your attention span wanders, this shows through and makes you seem disinterested, bored, possibly even uncaring.

Attention Direction - If you sit or stand so that you are blocking another in the party, say someone is behind you, this can be interpreted as rude or thoughtless. So be sure to turn so that everyone is included in the conversation or angle of view, or turn gently, at ease and slowly, while talking, so that everyone is incorporated, recognized and involved in the conversation. Again some suggest the clockwise movement when working a group.

Arms Folded / Legs Crossed - This can be seen as defensive or an end to the conversation. So have arms hang freely or hold a glass of water, a business card or note taking instruments while communicating with others. Be open with open arms. Note: If you need to cross legs, cross at your ankles and not your knees. Sitting tightly folded up says that you are closed to communications. 

Head Shaking - This is fairly accurate. If people are shaking their heads while you speak, they are in agreement. If they are shaking, “no,” disagreement reigns in their minds.

Space / Distance - On the whole, people like their own personal body space. Give people room and keep out of their space. Entering to close can be intrusive and viewed as aggressive. 

Leaning - Sitting or standing, leaning is viewed as interest. In other words, an interested listener leans toward the speaker. 

Note others’ body language - While you are with others, note how their bodies read. If a person suddenly folds his arms across his chest and begins shaking his head “no,” you’ve probably lost him. Might try taking a step back and picking up where the conversation began this turn for the negative and regroup. It’s all about strategic planning, so 'think'... before you 'do!' 

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