Relationship Blues…Where Did ALL of the AFFECTION, FOREPLAY and SEX GO?

My relationship was great until I moved in with him…then the affection and sex pretty much stopped. Does this sound familiar? For many it is a very touchy subject even so, one that needs addressed. In many relationships public affection, kissing, holding hands are common and many women would say that this is not the problem in their relationship, nonetheless some men just don't know how to show affection, or at least not the way a woman would like him to. As for the foreplay and sex, sometimes it only occurs when alcohol is involved and that is usually because your man is relaxed and it comes more easily. Is this normal, that's my question? Sure it's great to have them feeling like the sensual king or queen but you can't get them drunk every night for them to show you some love and express themselves. I believe that sex is like that of a great energy and it needs to be suppressed.  So what is the relevance?

They say that everyone wants that certain level of comfort in their relationship and that includes openness, closeness and physical intimacy. Its in our biological nature to feel that urge for some sort of intimacy. The percentage of couples that can pull off a healthy relationship without any kind of intimacy or affection is quite rare nevertheless it can happen and in these cases it is usually when their upbringing was the same as their now actions. Perhaps their parents did not have a physical relationship and that's the way your partner believes it should be? Sometimes becoming parents causes changes in the depths/levels of intimacy issues. Where you want to be a good parent, you still have to be a lover, boyfriend, girlfriend, mate or partner to one another. hey, I am not a professional but physical intimacy is like the glue of a relationship.

We all dream of eternal love. We want to believe that we've found the right person and that this man/woman is our everything. At this point, they have already won your affection. Some might say that it is natural for sex to die in a relationship because it is a simple way of affection. What about if he/she spend less and less time with their partner? Maybe they go to the gym more, stay at work later, begins attending more happy hours with the staff, more trips to the spa/salon, golfs 5 days/nights out of the week or believes spending time with the boys at the cigar shop is his time and a necessity because it relieves stress? What about your time and your level of stress that your portion of this relationship has endured? What happened to cooking for you, taking you out to dinner or going on a date? Is he falling asleep in a chair 30 minutes after you begin to spend 'us' time together? Has this too diminished and now you find yourself sitting at home by yourself more and more?

In all sincerity, really, how much can one person go with abstinence before they want to jump out of their skin and throw their hands up in disbelief? It leads many people that are used to having strong sexual relationships from previous partners to take a few steps backward and ponder the thoughts now asking themselves "is it me, does he/she not care anymore, or worse, is he/she seeing/sleeping with someone else? It is unbelievable to think that any couple can live on the 'love of one another' alone with no sexual relationship or level of intimacy.

Sex is needed for the existence of any good relationship. I don't think that is really up for discussion. Keep in mind that as women go through forms of menopause, guys middle age also go through something similar called manopause. It causes changes in a mans testosterone levels and they can have less of a sex drive. So, when your mate just cuts you off and rolls over every night making you feel like you have the plague, or pretends like he is sleeping or has a migraine, what do you do? Try to understand, and give him space. He may not get what is happening to him so how are you supposed to even begin to understand what is happening if you are beside yourself from his/her actions? The flip side is that your mate can be falling out of love. Perhaps  they just so accustom to you being around that the desire and mad need for that somewhat kinky 'knock down drag out dirty fun sex' is just no longer necessary because they've already won you and feel that love is enough?

Disappointment, hurt or simply taking one another for granted are the three major reasons why we feel less in a relationship over time. Finances and money issues are a HUGE downer for any relationship as well. Some men/women feel that they need to be making 'x' amount of dollars to maintain a healthy relationship and the need for the fancy cars, big houses, etc become more relevant in their mind. Those things are like their trophies so to speak, whereas myself personally, love is all I'd need and I'd move into a shack if it meant a happier healthier bond. Money makes a man feel superior. He holds himself high upon a pedestal and to others so if things are not going well for him financially, his entire way of living can change and that includes his affection for you.

If you feel that your relationship is lacking the glamour and luster that it once had, if you are a lover and a fighter and stand by your man/woman you may have to begin taking steps backward. Go back to the earlier days when your relationship began and reconstruct it. Trust and communication are key here folks. You either have it or you don't.

Its time to get out of the relationship blues! Add some spark again! If you relationship is worth saving and you are in love but you forgot how to show it…Start dating your honey again, and do romantic things for your partner. Love my friends does not cost a thing! Cook them dinner, give them a massage, draw their bath for them. Go back to the happy days when your relationship was new and less stressful. Grow together again in a physical and intimate way. Do something fun, playful and maybe even a bit risqué. Buy something sexy. Lingerie catches any mans eye if the right piece is worn. It will turn his head and give his libido a boost. Perhaps it is time to show him eye candy? Sexy lingerie such as role play costumes or bedroom or fantasy costumes are playful.

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Sunbathing…Beauty or the Beast?

Back in the day when I was in my teens in the 1970s, laying out in the sun all day and frying your skin like a french fry was cool, or so we thought. Girls wanted additional color, for if we had it we'd look prettier. As an Irish gal who had skin that burned quite easily, I was envious of my friends that were Italian that browned quickly showing no red or pink skin. I wanted to look like them and the super models in magazines that were thin and tan, who had men flocking all around them. Spending the day in the heat and in the blazing sun seemed harmless, but oh if I had only listened to my grandmother who preached to me that the suns rays were harmful. She told me that if I wanted to look 60 when I was a 40 to just keep laying out there where I would have leather like skin later in life. She said that freckles were beautiful and fair skin without blemishes were far better than basking in the sun and being in pain for a few days due to the sunburn, not to mention having lizard-like skin. She said to listen to her and that some day I would thank her for the advice. I only wish she were here to thank now. As an adult I now know far more than I did then.

We had a pool growing up and I tried everything to get color. Tanning oils were too expensive so we took moms sticks of butter and cooking oil from the pantry and coated out skin with these. You might have well basted us like a turkey and put us in the oven because the sun baked us within hours. We were young and naive and not well educated about UV rays and harmful issues that the sun could cause. 20+ years later my life changed…I learned after going to the dermatologist that those old burn days along with genetic traits had finally caught up with me. I learned that the sun which I saw as beauty had become my worst enemy, now the beast.

I had a biopsy and I was diagnosed with basal cell skin cancer in my mid 30s.  After routine checkups and biopsies it returned again, and again. For the next 2-7 years it kept coming back and I would have to repeat surgery. It was later that I was diagnosed with melanoma. My 4th surgery was my last. I had MOHS surgery, also known as chemosurgery. This surgery is rated 77-98% depending on the surgeon. MOHS cure rate of 95% for frown sections of Mohs and 98-99% for fixed tissue Mohs Method. (which is what I ended up having.) I had a mole on my right abdominal wall that was removed and never got the biopsy results. My stomach area was also the burn zone for the sun. Seems my belly attracted something far more than sunshine.

I have been in remission now for 6 years, happy to be CANCER FREE and it has not come back. I go in for check ups regularly and since my mid 30s when I was first diagnosed with this disease, I am very careful and protective of the harmful suns rays that at one time I worshiped. To younger women reading this I say; PLEASE, keep your youthful beauty. Protect your skin, for your body is your house and it is the only one that you will ever have so guard it and keep it safe. Treat it well and it will protect you. If I only knew then what I know now…

Lounging around in the hot sun with a cool cocktail might seem pretty relaxing, especially if your are on the beach or at the pool, but oh can this be dangerous if you don't pay attention to what your body may be telling you. If you are going to be cocktailing on a hot day please try to avoid direct sunlight and drink water in between frequently. If you get too intoxicated by a pool or on the beach you will most likely fail to realize that your in the danger zone not only for sunburn rather dehydration or possible heat stroke. It doesn't have to be June, July or August when many of us celebrate the summer months. I love the sun, however, I've learned to protect my body better can cover areas that would commonly be exposed. I wear a sun hat and thank you Prada for protecting my eyes. The sun is out year round and it is waiting to make you its next victim. Take precautions!


                                       6 TIPS for SUN CARE:

1) Avoid the sun when their rays are at their most intense time (11am-4pm) The higher the sun in the sky, the more harmful the ultraviolet radiation will be.

2) Wear enveloping sunglasses with a high anti-UV factor. Wear a wide rimmed hat that is loose fitting, and if possible try to wear long sleeved t-shirts or bermuda shorts or pants.

3) Don't trust your impressions. Beware of those infrared rays…they can be deceitful. They are what makes your skin feel hot, not the UV rays so if your skin is tingling…get the hell out of the sun!

4) Opt for shaded area verse sun nonetheless remember, those rays can burn you even if it is cloudy or on an overcast day.

5) If you are on certain medications, they can cause you to burn twice as fast, so read the labels and talk to your doctor.

6) WEAR PROTECTIVE SUNSCREEN…WATERPROOF, SWEATPROOF, EVERYTHING PROOF! Remember that this is going to need to be reapplied every few hours. It's not like deodorant where it works for 24 hours at a time.

Some people only think that they can burn in the summer time and when the sun is bright and full. Listen, it does not have to be hot and humid to get sunburn. You have a 30% chance of getting burnt in the cold winter months out side shoveling snow just the same if the sun is out, so always protect your skin. You have an 80% chance of burning if you're in water, so even though you might think it is cool to sit in the hot tub on your deck in the middle of winter, protect your skin as it is reflected off the sun and water. Going white water rafting, kayaking or canoeing? Do you do yard work? Do you tinker in the garden? If the answer is YES..WEAR SUNSCREEN! Don't become a statistic!

Plus Size Lingerie; The How To's When It Comes to Making the Best Selection for YOU!

In this ever changing market of women's intimate apparel, the most overlooked subject might be plus size lingerie. For decades women and men have been buying intimate apparel for themselves or as gifts for their significant others nonetheless, it seems as though so many lingerie boutiques only carry certain sizes. Those generally are S,M, L, XL. Some lingerie boutiques say that they carry plus size lingerie…but they model it on women that weight 100 pounds. What is wrong with this? EVERYTHING! A plus size woman doesn't want to see lingerie on a woman who is as thin as a rail. In my personal opinion, plus size lingerie sells much better when it is modeled on a plus size woman.

I believe in building confidence in women and there is no other way to do so than to allow plus size women show off their curves and full figures with lingerie and role play costumes that fit them right and hug their curves just so. Since the early 1990s plus size women have been asking for more curvy intimates that made them feel desirable. I shopped at plus size store with my friends that are plus size and the intimate apparel was not sensual, or sexy and there was very little to choose from. By the early 2000's the percentage of plus size women was rising. In 2008 when I formatted my businesses, the plus size percentage of women was around 57%. 6 years later the plus size percentile is 64% and with their every changing market, my ideal thoughts were to find distributors that would not only sell me plus size women's lingerie but would model them on beautiful plus size women so that every plus size woman could get an accurate idea of what it might look like on her.

When selecting plus size lingerie be sure that you have your correct measurements. If you don't know them, grab a tape measure and use it. Nothing is worse than buying something and then slipping into it only to discover that it is not going to fit properly. Choosing the wrong size causes discomfort and can be painful especially if worn for too long of a period of time. I am all for your underthings fitting just right. You want them to hug your curves, not cut of your circulation! Also, choose the colors that bring out your positive attributes. Wear the colors that go well with your skin tone. Choose the fabrics that feel good against your skin. Not everyone likes the feel of a corset because it is quite snug and tight to your breasts, so if you are one of those women who do not, you wouldn't want to buy one of these. If you have bigger hips or wish to hide your tummy, I find that the babydoll lingerie is a great route to take as it has a beautiful flow that will hide what you wish not to be seen all while looking stylish in that one particular piece that you've selected. If your hourglass figure is tone, a teddy or chemise is the lingerie piece you may choose. Remember that whatever you decide to purchase, lingerie never looked better than worn with stockings, garters and high heels. This is the finishing touch just as is icing on a cake, these accessories will complete the ensemble.

There are a variety of reasons to shop for lingerie; bridal, honeymoon, and wedding have been the top 3, nevertheless, women also buy these underthings to take on adult vacations. We sell plus size adult travel lingerie in sizes 1X, 2X, 3X, 4X and occasionally a 5/6X. On an adult vacation or cruise there are often clothing optional or strictly nude vacations, however, when you get into your comfort zone and the privacy of your own room, you may want to turn up the heat and sex appeal. Everyone loves to see a nude woman, but most people prefer undressing her slowly as this is the best form of foreplay that leads to sex. If you seek kicking it up a notch and want something different than the regular 'every day lingerie' buy a role play costume for the bedroom. Most adult travel includes 'adult theme party' on their itinerary so make sure that you have sex lingerie or sexy costume to wear for the bash.

Visit us anytime at Simply Luscious Lingerie where you will find women's plus size intimate apparel marked down 40-90% off retail prices. In order to receive these low discount prices you have to be a member where you will receive free stockings with every order, $1.99 lingerie and so much more. Our selection can accommodate your every day intimate apparel needs.

Role playing and the lust for sexy costumes!

For years people have been going to costume parties for various occasions such as Halloween and masquerade parties. Over the years, costumes have taken a different spin on our adult reality in a role play mode. In recent studies, men and women were asked if they could unleash their inner illusions would it be conceiving to say that their appetite for lust increased? The answer is YES! Role play costume sales have soared off the charts in the lingerie market. 96% of adult males and 90% of adult females admitted to fantasizing about sex.

Couples engaging in role playing have reported a much deeper level of intimacy and sexual satisfaction. Up until a few years ago, costumes appeared to be not as risky as they are now nonetheless, they were not packed in our luggage to take with us on our adult travel vacation adventures for adult theme parties at adult only resorts or adult only cruises for adults and swingers. Today, couples like the idea of setting sail in a fools paradise to the land of naughty where they can explore.

Today, with as many couples wanting to venture out and dip into something new, not only are they taking a giant leap and a walk on the wild side, however they are discovering that they've unleashed some fierce desires that have been a brewing within for some time now. Many people have fantasies and some couples even like to role play. Be committed and don't feel awkward. If you feel shy, take it slowly…listen to your partners fantasy and hear them out. Don't laugh or giggle. This can take the wind out of their sails quicker than anything.

There is nothing at all wrong with dressing up and role playing, in fact, it is enticing and erotic to say the least. Depending on the situation and the couple, there are a variety of costumes that can be worn to turn up the heat in the bedroom. Sexy costumes have a way to intensifying the libido. They can be cute and subtle, or they can be racy and risqué! Plenty of couples engage in role playing as a form of foreplay that leads into lovemaking.They act out events in scenarios that are relevant to their fantasies. Naughty nurse, sexy police officer, sassy school teacher, playful chef, superhero…whatever you choose, you'll find yourself being the damsel in distress as your partner swoops in to save the day.

My only advice, and I do say this from experience: be quite cautious in what you choose as certain costumes rock your bodily figure far better than others. If you have big hips and thighs you don't want something that is going to hug-them too tight. If you have a muffin top you don't belong in cut off tummy baring outfit. Be selective in your choices and make sure that you find the proper size. No one wants to buy something of the wrong size and be uncomfortable the entire time wearing it. Whether it is in the privacy of your own bedroom or at an adult theme party on vacation, you are stepping into a world of the unknown, so take a deep breath and get a little spontaneous!

Isn't it time you create your own utopia for your mate? Shop at our online boutique Simply Delicious Lingerie for a variety of bedroom, role play and holiday costumes at sexy discounted prices.

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Travel, Trinkets & Lingerie…

There aren't too many places that I know of where you can book your adult travel vacation, your honeymoon vacation, buy trinkets for your bridal/wedding party, and purchase sexy lingerie all under one roof. Perhaps you know of others…I am just bias. Simply Delicious Lingerie offers you all of these luxuries because we know what it's like in this busy day and age to value our time and to control our time management. For many, the allotment is over-exceeding itself. Now, I don't know about you but if I could do all of my shopping in one place and not move off my couch or from the chair behind my desk, and get so many things on my list done in a more simple verse the complex route, I would love it.

With these issues at hand, and with that in mind, I realized that my time is as valuable as everyone else's who may be reading this and I want to make it a little bit easier if I may. What fires me up on any given day? I love selling lingerie. It's my passion and this is where my heart is. I also love to travel to wherever I can when I have some down time, as I call it "me time!" BUT, I also love to make money.

 I sat down and made of list of what people spend hours upon hours searching for via Google, Bing, and Yahoo primarily that were similar to what I do and came to the realization that a lot of effort, (like my own) goes into searches shopping for 3 key things.

1) LINGERIE (or any women's intimate apparel.) This includes; adult lingerie, adult travel lingerie, sexy adult vacation lingerie, adult travel clothes, bridal, honeymoon and wedding day lingerie, sexy babydolls, sexy chemises, erotic sexy corsets, sexy garter sets, sexy matching sets, sexy lingerie for plus size women, sexy shoes, sexy legwear, sexy accessories, sexy role play costumes, women's lingerie sets and so much more.

2) WEDDINGS…The BIG DAY!
Many women spend hours upon hours browsing and surfing the web for bridal trinkets, and personalized gifts for the bridal party, and the bride and groom. They are trying to plan a wedding and shop for gifts for their closest friends that express their gratitude for being a big part of their special day. This can be anything from personalized beer steins, personalized bridal/wedding t-shirts, personalized cigar boxes, personalized wine glasses, personalized wine bottle openers, personalized pillows, personalized wall art, personalized photo frames, all the way down to the flip flops that the bride and her entire bridal party slip into after the ceremony to enjoy dancing the night away now in comfort! When you visit Simply Delicious Lingerie you will find an array of gifts and trinkets that you can personalize for anyone in the bridal party.

3)  TRAVEL: HONEYMOON…ADULT ONLY DESTINATIONS!
Many people know where it is that they desire to go on their honeymoon, in fact, some of you have had a dream honeymoon in mind for oodles of years, and then there are those that don't know what this globe that we call the 'big world' has to offer…so with that in mind please allow me to shed some light on what I try to do to assist couples in making their dream honeymoon or adult weekend travel escape possible.

I have two sources for primary linkage;

A) My blog page where I am an affiliate to many stores including travel. Browse the Simply Delicious Lingerie blog @ Simply Delicious Lingerie Blog where when you begin to scroll downy the page way beneath the articles you will find a wide variety of stores to shop for bargains, women's clothing, women's adult travel clothing, perfumes, swimwear, etc. Many of these stores offer specials such as; free shipping, discount percentages off items, bonus bucks for traveling, etc. If you are on a budget and want to save money, visit my blog page today!

B) The Simply Delicious Lingerie home page @ Simply Delicious Lingerie will show you mid way down a number of travel resorts that offer bridal, honeymoon and wedding packages, as well as any and all adult travel ideas that you could possibly think of. Whether you are a couple getting married and looking for a dream honeymoon for adults only, a couple whose seeks a new kind of fun, if you are adults whose children are grown and find yourselves wishing to give into some fantasies and temptations, or swingers looking for an erotic week/weekend of fun, have I got the hot spots for you! There are a variety of adult travel vacations one can choose; clothing optional vacations, nude travel are two of thee top choices. Please pay close attention to the websites and what they offer as not everyone reads all the fine print and understands that the resorts that are nude resorts are NUDE RESORTS…so if you are a little gun shy about baring it all, you may wish to select the ADULT TRAVEL CLOTHING OPTIONAL VACATION! By networking together, I am able to list these websites on my stores and they in return assist me in boosting sales via their business. See Simply Delicious Lingerie @ Becky's Closet or at Erotic Adult Travel where these fabulous friends of mine work with me to grow our companies.

As a business owner, I work day in and day out networking and searching for new connections to build my business, to develop, to learn from others and to watch what I have grow. I have valued partnerships that I have met via through other business connections, friends or on the web. Not only do I network to develop affiliate relationships with these organizations and stores, I shop many of them myself. Next time you are looking for travel, trinkets and lingerie, please visit us @ Simply Delicious Lingerie and Simply Luscious Lingerie for discounts and sales!

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Don't Get Your Panties in a Bunch…

Have you ever been at an airport, a ball game, a cookout, at a concert, a local grocery store or even a restaurant when you saw a woman walking around with toilet paper stuck to her shoe or worse, her dress or skirt caught in her pantyhose or panties leaving her tush to bare for all to see? What would you do? My grandmother used to always sing to me "I see England, I see France, I see Shelly's underpants!" Back in the day when I was a kid, that was funny…today, not so funny. To be publicly embarrassed is so not cool. 

This morning I was out and about picking up my favorite asiago cheese bagels for breakfast when a woman stormed past me to the line to place her order with her dress caught up in her panties. People were looking at her and chuckling, but no one was saying anything. I even saw a few people with their phones out and most likely taping this ordeal. This all happened quite fast…I sat back for all of about 10 seconds before I walked up behind her, leaned over her shoulder and said "forgive me please, but your thank me in a minute, as I gave her dress a tug!' As I grabbed onto her dress she turned around with a bright red face and teary eyes all the while knowing that this popular joint was full of both men, women and children and she was probably wondering to herself how many people saw her like this? 

My question is why? Why would you let someone get from the ladies room to the checkout without saying anything at all? Common courtesy says 'help a gal out here!' I would hope that if this ever happened to me that someone would immediately jump in. Sure it may be really funny for a minute or two but this woman will remember this FOREVER! 

The moral of the story is this; do a good deed. Don't let a sista walk around with her panties in a bunch and her dress caught baring all without coming to her rescue. The great news is that out of this tragedy, I made a new friend and gained a possible new customer at my lingerie store. This woman was really fortunate to have been wearing nice undies which was a plus for her and I did compliment her on that. Not only did I help a girl out, rather I gave her my business card and invited her to shop for women's lingerie sets at my online boutique. Little did I know that she was in the fashion industry just passing through town as she introduced herself to me. After thanking me for all that I did to keep her from total humiliation, she told me that she was going to find a better way to thank me some day. I said no need for that, anyone should do what I did. 

Whether you are out in public or in the office, at a ballgame or in the boardroom, if you see this situation in action, be the bigger person to save the day and the other persons integrity. I believe in karma! Please ladies, pay it forward today!

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Women's Lingerie Sets…Be The Bedroom Vixen

In the world of women's intimate apparel, there are probably a gazillion pieces out there on the market begin sold every day, each appealing to the eye and most all of them 110% sexy! She wears it with finesse all while in good taste. With so many articles of women's lingerie, some racy some risqué how on earth does one choose which piece(s) would be best suitable for her?

This is the question that is being asked by many people, both men and women. Sexy lingerie is a desirable yet enchanting piece of apparel that can be exquisitely worn. The reverse side of this can be disastrous and oh so damaging to a women if worn too small or too tightly. Let's face it, women (most that I know) like to feel confident and sensual in sexy lingerie. No one wants to slip into something so uncomfortable that she is counting the seconds until she removes it. Women are creatures of comfort, nonetheless for some women, they just don't care because they figure they will only have it on for a few seconds/minutes anyway…but for those of us that yearn to romance someone slowly and with much foreplay…think twice before slithering into something that is unbearable to wear as it can certainly turn into a real fiasco.

Sexy appeal never looked so good and when a woman can use a piece of lingerie like a tool it is then that she is in charge. What do I mean by that? Lingerie should fit you like a glove. If it does a women will feel sexy in this piece and it will scream wow! Most women that I have met stated that they are tickle pink to have a handful of lingerie in their lingerie drawer that they feel so serene in and their partners jaw will be on the floor if she can enter the room with the proper etiquette.

With the number of sexy babydolls, sexy cami sets, sexy chemises, erotic sexy corsets, sexy garter sets, sexy petticoats, sexy role play costumes, and sexy teddies, many women may be confused as to which piece(s) would suite her likings best. My motto is simple…no, that's my motto. Wear something simple. Might I suggest one of our exquisite bra and panty sets? A women's lingerie set is inviting, intriguing and over the top if she selects the proper size, style and sexy color. Might I suggest black? It's seducing and slimming. Isn't it time you be the vixen in the bedroom? Crank up the heat and fire up and make it sizzle! Tonight this is your night to light it up and be the enchantress.

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Why Sexy Lingerie Builds Confidence

I hear it at least 5 times a day in our Q&A Fashionista letters to Tantalizing Tina. People ask what women are afraid of? Some might say that women hide behind their baggy clothes… women don't know how to dress sexy enough,… women are not willing to let down their guard down, or some women just aren't the right size or shape to pull off lingerie. My response here is going to be short and sweet. Whomever is making these accusations and comments obviously has never slipped into a piece of lingerie before. It has been said that confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can wear…so why then might some of us be less reluctant to slither into it? We all have insecurities folks.

Women do not hide behind their clothes for a reason, and no, not all women do know how to dress. From a woman's point of view, we do put up shields, and our guard can be up like Fort Knox. Often we do hide behind a huge wall but this is for many reasons. None of us are the perfect size or shape. Some of us have fatty pockets where others may not, and some of us may not have been blessed with hooters of great size. Some of us after childbirth sag more or have larger hips…so what? Size or shape has nothing to do with the inner feeling of sex appeal that goes along with lingerie. Some may say that lingerie is not for every woman and I tend to disagree. Regardless of your age, height, shape, size or weight, there is intimate apparel for all women.

If a woman has never really worn lingerie before, she may feel safe in her comfort zone (as I would call it.) There is absolutely nothing wrong with fear of the unknown especially when it comes to putting on something that you've never worn before. Might I suggest to these women that if you are one that I speak of, don't sweat the small stuff…lingerie is meant to be sensual and sexy. You shouldn't feel sluty in it and if you do then it certainly is not the right selection for you. With the hundreds of pieces that I sell at both of my online boutiques Simply Delicious Lingerie and Simply Luscious Lingerie (my plus size store) there are a variety of brands, designers, sizes, colors and mixtures to give you an array of choices. Buying lingerie is like taking baby steps. Go slow and with caution. Find something simple and for heaven sakes, walk around the house in your undergarments so that you feel comfy in them. Love the way they hug your curves! I happen to like babydolls because they camouflage some of the weaker areas that a woman would rather hide, yet they still provide a sexy glimpse of what is underneath.

We sell discounted lingerie for women so that she can afford to wear it and so that she can look sexy. When we look sexy in lingerie it builds our confidence. Every woman needs to have confidence in herself. It does not mean putting on something slinky. It means finding what makes you feel comfortable and pretty. Personally I love women's lingerie sets. There is also something to be said about our partners liking the simple things, but it has to be eye catchy. A sexy matching set is as simple as buying yourself a new bra and panty ensemble. The top 3 favorite colors are; black, red, and white but that doesn't mean that you have to wear any of these colors. Lace and satin are great fabrics. In fact, I suggest finding something in the color and style that you are comfortable with. 

Yes women want to look alluring and intriguing, nonetheless, if we feel out of character wearing something that is ridiculously too small or too tight, we'll never want to put another piece of lingerie on again. Whether it be a babydoll, chemise, sexy corset, sexy matching set, role play costume, etc., wear it because it makes you feel like a million bucks inside and out. You are sexy ladies, so take ownership of that and watch your confidence level hit the charts!

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Love Don't Cost a Thing… Little Things that Women Appreciate

Perhaps there is nothing to celebrate, but what woman in her right mind doesn't like surprises? The truth is, women love when their partners become more affectionate and do things for them…but I'm not talking huge things…I am talking small potatoes here. It doesn't hurt for your partner to try to be a little romantic. It's those little things that make women fall in love and they make such a big difference in a relationship if you remember to do it once in a while. J-Lo sang it…"Love Don't Cost a Thing."

There are 3 words that every woman longs to hear and can never get sick of hearing and those words are 'I love you.' If you are in a relationship or if you are married these words should flow from your mouth easily. Now, be it as it may, some men find these words challenging or difficult to say. Some men will wallow their way around those words and when a woman asks "honey, what are 3 words that you can say that would make someones day" she doesn't want to hear him say "9 o'clock tee-time." Surely all of this doesn't mean that he does not love her, it just means that not all men are good at communicating such deep thoughts verbally, so in that case he needs to learn how to use his body language to express himself. What do I mean by this? Romance her with your eyes, stroke her hair and kiss her behind the neck, pull her close and kiss her. Body language is 90% of how we communicate and if he can't say it using his mouth he best know how to do it in another form.

You want to focus on keeping the passion alive and that fire burning, because more often than not, as time goes by it diminishes, and it could all go up in smoke! Some men think that after being with a woman for a certain period of time that they are done with the courtship, the dating, the foreplay, and all the excitement and glamour…they forget about the flowers, the dinner dates, the weekend trips together and worse, they don't appear to care about sex anymore. Perhaps they can forget these things but women sure don't forget them. Even those little gestures certainly do matter to the women. Being appreciated and complimented is a very big deal to many women and guess what fellas? It's free! Unlike many, and on the contrary, what the statistics state (that women need a lot to make them happy) I beg to differ.

To make the relationship full of life, it's not only the guys who should reach out and make the effort find romantic ideas. For men, it may be really difficult to be romantic, why, I have no idea, unless he's just not that into her, he isn't all that great at getting creative, or he may find it cheesy in his mind, nonetheless, there are things that you may think are quite simple to do that could be very romantic for women.

1)  Remember the important dates, anniversaries, birthdays, etc. The ladies don't forget these specific dates, so stay in tune with their feelings! Here's an easy one that will bring her to her knees… Serve her breakfast in bed!

2) Take time to let her know that you are thinking of her during the day. You can send her a simple text message, or you can tell her all about your day when you cuddle at night. A woman likes to hear that she is loved, and special. She wants to know that she's been on your mind.

3) Hey…don't forget the little things. Listen to her needs through her voice as well as her body language. Women love to be touched. It's a gentle gesture that says you care.

4)Spend Quality Time with Her! If you want to do something more special, you can take her out to a romantic dinner, or get her tickets to a romantic or a funny movie, plan trip out of town together to share those special moments and laughs. Always remember to keep the romance in your relationship because more often than not it's the little things that mean the most. Buy her sexy lingerie and plan an adult travel destination somewhere exotic just for the two of you so that you can put your romance skills to work! Can't make it to the beach, bring the beach to your bedroom. Remember romance only dies if we let it. Love don't cost a thing, so give her the little things that she appreciates.

Relationships…Why They Fizzle

Unlike 50+ years ago when my parents wed, relationships are not as easy as one might think and taking vows are in my opinion these days more or less are seriously being taken for granted. Anyone that says relationships are easy is probably the 2% static rate that actually does have a pretty fabulous gig. The other 98% however need to work on theirs each and everyday in order to make it work. Tina Turner once sang "What's love got to do with it?" The answer to that questions is EVERYTHING!

Making it work isn't as difficult as one might think, on the other hand, for many people it is quite challenging to say the least. Communication and trust are two key factors in any and all relationships. You have to have a solid foundation to build on or like quicksand you'll sink and the relationship will go under. Love takes days, weeks, months and even several years to make it right but the rewards are so great for those of us in relationships that struggle and learn from one another day in and day out.

Relationships are not based on sex alone, however, the sex appeal that we possess in a relationship and the teasing that we can do adds a little playful zest. I believe that things can get boring and fizzle if we allow them to and this happens when you get too busy in your own life and wrapped up in your own issues to make time for the one that you are with. Sometimes a woman feels like her boyfriend or husbands assistant talks to him more than she does. Often he has no clue to this as he just thinks that this is work and in all men's minds, work is work. Guess what fellas, it's not always about the mighty buck, and it's not always about you. It's not always about what you have or how quickly you rise to the top that makes you successful…more times than not it is was the voice of your loved one telling you to hang in there and take it one day at a time that is the key to your own financial freedom and success. Like your relationship, this too is built from solid ground. This goes the same way for women who are business savvy and succeed. More often than not, your partner was the drive behind your success and he/she was the one that got very little of your attention along the way.

Relationships need to be nurtured and worked on daily so that the love can continue to grow. How can we keep it real and have that playful fun that I speak about? Passion for someone grows over time and love doesn't happen over night. My grandmother used to say that if you were lucky enough to find that one man that made your heart skip a beat…that one man that could know what you were thinking before it was said and that one man who could ready your body language like a book that he would not only be your best friend rather your life long partner through good, bad and the ugly. I was at the beach once a few years ago and saw an elderly couple holding hands. I said hello and we began to talk. They shared with me that they were enjoying their 65th wedding anniversary where they met, there on the beach. I asked if everyday was easy for them? They laughed and said no way. They stayed strong by staying in tune with one another. They communicated and they looked at every day as if it was the first day that they met and fell in love. I walked away from that 5 minute conversation with a new outlook on life and relationships.

If you have a relationship that is brand new or if it is 20 years old find ways to keep the spark alive! If you lack lust then dig deep and find it again. Not sure where to begin? Relate back to what made your partner smile when you first met. Bring her flowers for no reason at all. Leave her a card next to her pillow that says she is special…How about a glass of wine and some jazz music when he comes home from work to relax and unwind? How about a nice dinner served by you in something sexy? Foreplay is quite erotic you know? Perhaps you need to escape for a weekend or a nice week long vacation. When was the last time that you and your partner went somewhere over night and had fun and really enjoyed one an others company? When was the last time you thought about planning and adult vacation?

Plan a surprise weekend or a trip and make it all about you! Love doesn't disappear over night…sometimes it just lies idle for a while waiting for that spark to come back. What are you waiting for my friend? Ignite it! Make it happen and put your partner ahead of everything else today. Wake up the relationship before it is too late. For those of you who don't have any issues and everything is peachy, now is your time to plan an adult travel and getaway for some R&R. Everyone needs to get away from the everyday reality that they live in day in and day out. Get spontaneous! Get adventurous! Find some sexy lingerie and entice your partner. Whether you do it on a boat, on a beach, in a beautiful hotel room or in the privacy of your own home make it like an oasis paradise and one to be remembered.

You're asking yourself "what the hell does she know about relationships…she sells lingerie for a living?" Folks, I could write a book on relationships. I've learned from plenty of my own mistakes. You get out of a relationship exactly what you put into it. Relationships are a lot like lingerie. Its all about finding what looks best on you, what you are comfortable with and how to make it fit and flow well. You wouldn't want a partner that was overbearing or controlling and you wouldn't want a piece of lingerie that you felt like you were suffocating in because it didn't fit properly because you chose the wrong size. Finding what meshes well together is have the battle. Connecting with that certain someone is like finding the missing piece of ones puzzle. Every relationship needs some tweaking from time to time. Grow together. Do things together as a couple for heaven sakes. Make time for your relationship. Go relax on a beach, go have a couples massage at the spa, take a horse back ride, watch the sunset sharing a glass of wine…together. Isn't your relationship worth it? Don't lose the fizzle. All you need is love…