Bridal Jitters?

That one perfect day that we all dream of from the time we were 5....getting married to our prince. In today's day and age, getting married is nothing like it was almost 30 years ago when I did it, and although the American dream of every woman being like Cinderella is still in full view, why is it that we get so stressed out and full of anxiety leading some women flat out to depression? Hey, it's a lot of stuff to prepare for. Take my advice. Don't ask a lot of people for help or what you will get is everyone arguing and telling you what to do. In the end, it's your feelings that matter. Select what you like, don't settle for anything to make a friend or family member happy. They aren't the ones getting married sister...YOU ARE! Take a big deep breath and focus! You may be having a case of bridal jitters!

Did you know that feelings of anxiety and concern are completely normal prior to a wedding. One or both members of the couple may experience the cold feet phenomenon that overshadows them and causes them to become concerned over their upcoming wedding. Usually this feeling is not a cause for concern and it passes naturally on its own as your realize that you are more excited than anxious but the following are a few tips for helping to work through your cold feet issues. There are a lot of ways to deal with this situation, so take a DEEP breath!

The first tip for dealing with cold feet is simply to relax and realize that this happens to a lot of people in your situation. This is important because many people will get caught up in believing that these feelings mean that they shouldn’t go through with their wedding. Realizing that your feelings are completely naturally will help to waylay these fears.

After you calm down, get out a piece of paper and pen and just start listing all of your anxiety. This is particular helpful because you may have a great deal of trouble doing this which is significant because it helps you to realize that you don’t really have anything to worry about. The other scenario is that you may find that you have a long list of fears and may be amused to find that none of them are really logical. Sometimes seeing your concerns listed on paper helps to alleviate them.

Another tip for dealing with cold feet is to talk to your partner about your feelings. Many people are hesitant to this because they are embarrassed about their feelings but talking to your loved one can really help in this situation. Chances are that they know you better than anyone and can assist you working through these things. They may even confess similar feelings which helps you to realize that cold feet are completely natural.

If you feel that talking to your partner will further exacerbate the problem consider talking to a close friend instead. Just talking about your anxiety can help to relieve the tension. Once you verbalize your fears you are likely to find that they begin to dissipate and you start to relax and look forward to your upcoming wedding. 

Another tip for dealing with cold feet is to talk to a friend who has recently married to get their perspective on married life. They will be able to tell you how well things are going for them which should ease your fears about the transition to married life. They will also be able to assure you that they had similar feelings of anxiety and that there is no cause for concern. 

Making two lists; one of your fears and one of your reasons for marrying your partner, can help to alleviate cold feet. Once you make this list you will most likely see that the reasons that you want to get married far outweigh your fears. Sometimes just seeing this on paper is very beneficial to eliminating cold feet. 

Writing a love letter to your partner can be another way to combat the feelings of cold feet. Get creative! This process gives you a chance to ponder all the reasons why you love your partner. Expressing your feelings in a love letter can refocus your attention on what you love most about your partner and make you realize that the small things you are worrying about are really inconsequential. 

Going through old photos of you and your partner can also help to ease the anxiety of cold fit. Looking through pictures from your courtship is a great way to remind you of all the fun times you and your partner have had together and will help you realize that there are still lots of fun times together in store for the two of you. 

Spending some time away from the planning process is another way to help alleviate cold feet. Wedding anxiety is often spurred on by other problems such as the stresses of the wedding planning. This stress can put you on edge and make problems seem bigger than they really are. Take a trip to spa or spend an afternoon participating in an activity you enjoy to take your mind off of all the details that are still remaining for a little while. 

Finally, if after examining the reason for your cold feet, you come to realize that there are more serious issues at hand it is would be advisable to postpone the wedding until these issues can be resolved. If your concerns are valid and your relationship is potentially harmful either physically or emotionally you may need to seek professional help. Issues such as abuse, addiction and betrayal can be reasons to cancel a wedding and discontinue the relationship.  

Cold feet of feelings of anxiety over your impending wedding are perfectly normal. Many brides and grooms have these feelings and in most cases they are completely harmless. It is, however, important to trust your instincts, yes girls as my grandmother always used to say...."listen to your gut!" It's usually right on the money and if there is something seriously wrong with your relationship, it may be wise to cancel the wedding. 

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What Color Suits Your Lingerie Personality?

What type of lingerie suits your needs? One must first ask themselves....Are you a cotton or a silk kinda gal? How about a boy cut or thong style? Did you know that your lingerie personality is really about what type of intimate apparel you like to wear? Did you know that everyone has a lingerie personality of their own? Whether it's the cut of your bras and panties or the type of nighties you wear, you have a personality. Did you know that you wear to bed makes a statement about you? Yepper! Now granted ladies, we don't go to bed dressed like this everynight...if you do, I want to hear from you. I'll make you the next topic of my storyline and you'll be queen of my blog for the day!

Sometimes, women get tired of the "same old, same old" and we want to go through a lingerie makeover. These makeovers can hit at any time but most of the time, come after some life altering experience like having a baby, getting married, getting a divorce or losing weight. For whatever reason you want a makeover for all your under things, before you start spending away, it's a good idea to discover what type of lingerie personality you have before shopping for a new lingerie wardrobe. If you don't, you may find yourself asking "Why, why, why?"

Now, did you also know that what color you wear says something about you, as well as telling a story?

If you didn't think it was possible, think again!Were you wondering what your lingerie color says about you? Well wonder no longer! Lets see what the color of your lingerie says about you?

If there is one thing you should know about lingerie – it is that the color does matter.  No matter what people tell you, the color is going to be something that you really want to pay attention to whenever you are dealing with lingerie.  After all, your mate is going to be paying attention to it.  For example, do you know exactly what white lingerie will do for you?  What about red lingerie?  Or white, or black?  Many people do not and that is exactly what we are going to talk about here!

First up is going to be white lingerie. I'll bet that you didn't know that most white lingerie is actually associated with bridal lingerie? Come on...sure you did...nevertheless, it doesn't mean that you can only wear it if you plan on becoming bride and never put it on again. You see, white lingerie is actually one of the sexiest lingerie colors in the world!  There are a ton of options for you, from white all the way to champagne and to be honest, they all are truly beautiful. Which do you prefer? Can't decide? Check out SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com and choose from a wide variety...

More so, white lingerie is going to provoke romance and very intense feelings, so that is something that you will want to consider when you are purchasing white as a color – if you want sexy, you might want to consider red.  That is our next lingerie color up!

Red is by far one of the sexiest colors, but personally – Red is hot. It's a strong color that conjures up a range of seemingly conflicting emotions from passionate love to violence and warfare. Red is Cupid and the Devil. A stimulant, red is the hottest of the warm colors/ Studies show that red can have a physical effect, increasing the rate of respiration and raising blood pressure.

Personally...I think that black is a color that can sway either to sexy or romance, depending on the mood that you set.  Black is one of those colors that is very versatile and yet it is still associated with the dark side … and that is exactly what it is.  When you are dealing with black lingerie, it is all about the fabric that you choose.Black looks good in tons of different fabrics, however, sheer fabric is by far the best and to me, it really does leave something on the table and leaves a little mystery about yourself.  Satin is also another fabric that I love in black for it looks absolutely incredible and when you pair black satin with something bright – you will really blow your mate out of the water!Black is also an investment because it makes any body-type look thin and slim and that is something that is beautiful and will make you feel beautiful too! Whether your lingerie is for adult travel, the honeymoon, sexy adult vacations, weddings, or every day use, make certain that the color expresses YOU!