Why is life so difficult and why is finding the right partner like pulling teeth? Where do we go for the right answers to so many questions? Sometimes I'm not the easiest person to get along with but I have qualities that any man (or so you would think) would love, honor and appreciate. So many woman like myself feel that time after time they are beating their heads against a wall trying to figure men out. Why is it that it's OK when they do something but not us? Why is it that they should be forgiven yet not us, and why is it that they shouldn't be held accountable for their actions, and by this it also includes things that they say in times in which they might be shall we say,... less coherent or alcoholically challenged/under the influence? Why can men beat up on woman with no remorse? Is it acceptable? Stabbing a woman in the back is just as bad as slapping her in the face. Your actions hurt people. Are you aware of this? My guess is, absolutely not! Why do people overlook situations like these and so many others?
Lets face the facts...dating and marriage is a whole lot different than it was twenty some years ago. In today’s society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes “commitment” seem scary doesn't it? It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Why do people give up so easily? Is it because they are looking for perfection, they have bad habits, they like doing things that you don't like to do so you feel it will hurt your relationship in the long run, or because they worry that their family members won't accept them?
These days, dating is more like a marathon, not simply trying to date as many people as possible in the shortest amount of time. I ask myself, is it really worth it? It's bad enough that we get stabbed int the back by our own family members but now we have to worry about the whole "he said she said mumble jumble crap!" It makes you tired doesn't it? Do you want to be alone for the rest of your life or are you ready to say, "hey, I care about you." Words should be chosen wisely, and quite carefully. Never ever ever say that you love someone whether you are sober or complete opposite, crocked off your rocker because your actions have an adverse affect on people and what you just said (in a drunken moment of passion) can ruin a really good relationship that was for so long built on a childhood friendship. Is it really worth it? No. Do people have regrets? I believe that they do, sure they do. Do we all make mistakes? Sure we do...then have the balls to stand up and admit that you were wrong (if you were) and make things right. It's time to be the bigger person and say "Hey, I'm sorry!"
Take the time to get to know someone at a deeper level. The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The “spark” has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled, or maybe there is a spark missing. Guess what folks, you'll never find that one true person that has everything you want and if you think that you will find Mr. or Ms Perfection, I'd love to hear about it because it rarely happens.
Stop picking someone apart that you are 75% compatible with and learn to do the things that he or she likes to do that consume the other 25% of the relationship/friendship. Relationships are after all about compromise. Unless you want to be alone forever, you need to lighten up and enjoy life. You have to learn how to open up, trust this person and share a little piece of your heart with them because only then will you experience true happiness.
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