Monday, October 8, 2012

Jumping Back Into the Dating Pool at 50

If you are 50 or older and just jumping back into the dating pool I say kudos to you! Congratulations for taking the leap! Yes, we know while dating in your 20s or even 30s may have been difficult, it's a vastly different landscape now. Times are changing and we need to keep up with the trends of the dating world. You've entered a new chapter of your life, so enjoy yourself. W e really do mean that in a GREAT way. Think about it: You bring so much more to the table now as a mature adult, and trust me, that is pretty significant. You've learned from past experiences and  mistakes. The fact of the matter is now, you've got wisdom, experience under your belt, and street smarts to help you identify exactly what you're looking for in a relationship. With those thoughts in mind, here are just a few simple tips for creating a profile which will help ensure your online dating success:

First, sit down and make some notes about what it is that you seek, and desire most? Be prepared  (I guess is what I am trying to say) What does that mean? Make a List of the pro's and con's. Your expectations of what you desire in a relationship and a future mate should be accurately reflected in your online profile. Write down what type of person you are looking for, your expectation (i.e., companionship or marriage), your values and personal interests.


Dating can be an unnerving experience at any age. Nonetheless, dating after age 50+ presents a unique set of challenges. You have a 50-year-old body with a 30-year-old headset, and you need to figure out what to do to get back in the groove! Did you know that Americans age 50 and older are the fastest growing demographic on the dating website? Does that surprise you? It shouldn't! The bottom line is simple; We don't have the time or patience to go bar or club hopping. We want someone real that is not going to be the player or play us. At this age you are past the 'playing games' era.

Here's my suggestion, totally unprofessionally, but nevertheless, my honest opinion; Seek out the help from a good friend. Post a flattering picture of yourself online, but don't use a photo 10 years younger than you are. Get your friend to look at the picture before you put it online and find the best picture that really represents who you are...you don't want to be deceiving in any way. You should also avoid exaggerating or downright lying in your profile. My theory is this; the more descriptive and honest that you are, the better match you are actually going to make. People would rather have honesty even if it means you aren't the perfect fit of what they desire verse handing them a line of shit a mile long that you'think' they want to hear.

 Whatever you do, please don't turn a first date into a job interview. Let loose, and have some fun for heaven sake! Go into the meeting with the intention of having a good time. Let go of the goal-oriented dating of finding a soul mate, and just RELAX! You want to lower your expectation of finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. Find someone to date that seems intriguing to you. Be open to experiencing each date and each person for what they have to offer. Prepare conversation starters. (think of what you want to ask in advance so that your words don't get all fumbled and you end up putting your foot in your mouth.) There's nothing worse than awkward pauses on a first date that stretch into eternity. Let's eliminate that one by coming up with a few questions that will break the ice;

You need to have a list of a few conversation starters such as what's your favorite dish, do you like to travel, what sporting events do you follow, and do ask about their family.Start off simple, this is your first meeting and your opportunity to make a great first impression. You don't want to sound nosey. Never ask if they own their home, how much they make, what their 401K looks like in terms of retirement, or what they drive. That is tacky and materialistic and if you want to make a person run like the wind, that'll do it. These things you'll learn  in time if you see them again AND if they desire to continue seeing you. Relationships start as friendships and it is upon this that you build your solid foundation. Remember, communication is always KEY!

A few key notes; No matter how old you are when you jump into the world of dating, keep your integrity in mind. You really don’t have to play by anyone else’s rules. If you respect yourself, you inadvertently demand that the world around you do the same. Just keep in mind that things have changed and there may be some unexpected twists and turns for you to navigate. Be sure to realize it’s alright to be alone. If you’ve spent your life with someone taking care of you or were expected to wait on someone hand and foot, dating might take you by surprise. Know that going on a date with someone doesn’t obligate you to be in a relationship with a person. It just means you had a nice evening together. Just enjoy yourself and have a good time. It's OK to get your feet wet!





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